"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alright enough of all this "pick up line, approach" bs

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Seriuosly, pick up lines are dumb, no matter how witty they are.

The BEST pick up line possible is something along " Hi, my name is...." and go from there.

The only type of first line you can say that could possibly beat that is if there is something situational you can comment on, but after you comment, you should probably follow through with "anyway my name is..." or something. be creative.

Pick up lines are bs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I agree 100%. Pick up lines are cheesy. If anything, you should use situational openers. "Let me ask you something. How would you feel if, a guy you were dating did so and so, then blah blah blah"

I didn't ask her if I could ask her a question, then I went into a situation that she's can probably relate to. Pickup lines are stupid and should be avoided at all costs.
 

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In my humble opinion, there is absolutely nothing that we (guys on this forum) can't use to our advantage. Personally, I love pick up lines. Using the cheesiest ones possible (not to open a conversation, but a little later) is a great way to get a laugh or break the ice. From how I've used them, it just has to be clear that what you're saying is just that: a pick up line.
 

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The only pickup line that is proven to be successful is..."I like your shoes."
If you're talking and you're making her laugh already, then you can throw out some of the ruder ones, just to make her laugh more. I use them as jokes, and it works, never as an introductory line though.
 

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well i meant lines that you use to approach.


Also i guess Maestro found a fault in my post, overly cheesy pick up lines are pretty awesome, even though sometimes girls are too stupid to pick up that you're just being sarcastic
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Kev07 said:
Seriuosly, pick up lines are dumb, no matter how witty they are.

The BEST pick up line possible is something along " Hi, my name is...." and go from there.

The only type of first line you can say that could possibly beat that is if there is something situational you can comment on, but after you comment, you should probably follow through with "anyway my name is..." or something. be creative.

Pick up lines are bs.
The best pickup line is what is percieved NOT to be.

At a Superbowl party last weekend I was in another town. I knew no one and no one knew me; I was in for my cousin's birthday so I had a talk peice if all else failed, but I simply walked over and sat next to a reasonably attractive blonde and said

"so *eye contact* born n raised here?"

"yeah"

"thats awesome, I used to live here but now I'm in the city"

"which city?"

....

"you know my cousin (insert name)?"

"yeah hes a really cool guy we've been going to school together since like 8th grade"

"wow thats cool, this is your friend too?" *notioning towards the brunnette next to her (aka my target)*


All I'm getting to is that there should never be room for her to think anywhere outside of your "conversation sphere," if you will. It should be engaging, yet simple enough to allow her to run her eyes over you to size you up. During which time you should really have your A game up.

I ended up getting a lap dance from both the blonde and the brunette by the end of that party. Made out with the brunette, but had drank 3/4ths bottle of SKYY soon after so I blacked out and woke up with the blonde. :(

I really need to work on staying sober at parties...

oh and about 70% of situational openers that I've used have failed. I'm pretty ****ty at them and I come off like a perv.
 

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kdnash82 said:
If anything, you should use situational openers. "Let me ask you something. How would you feel if, a guy you were dating did so and so, then blah blah blah"
That is an opinion opener.
 

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Kev07 said:
Seriuosly, pick up lines are dumb, no matter how witty they are.

The BEST pick up line possible is something along " Hi, my name is...." and go from there.

The only type of first line you can say that could possibly beat that is if there is something situational you can comment on, but after you comment, you should probably follow through with "anyway my name is..." or something. be creative.

Pick up lines are bs.
So you're suggesting giving your name to the target before anything else? That's worse than "pick up" lines. You're not creating mystery by doing that, and she cant give you an ioi by asking for your name since you've already told her.
 
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