Alright DJs, I need your advice on this situation

[like2jam]

Ok, so I went out with this woman again for the third time over the weekend.

Had a decent time and even got naked with her and had some pretty intense intimacy with her. I ended up leaving pretty early in the AM, but I did not sleep over.

Before we had any drinks and after I got there, I knew for sure that I wasn't interested in her long term. She, on the other hand, is now coming on stronger than ever.

In fact, she's texting me every day since then. It's getting to be a bit much. I haven't told her specifically that I'm going on other dates with women, but I am. I haven't told her that I'm not, either.

She's definitely getting more serious and I'm pulling away.

So now, I'm trying to figure out a graceful exit strategy. I respect her, and she's really a nice person. I don't want to be mean or rude to her. I'm not sure how abrupt I need to make this though.

What do you guys do in this situation? What do you think is the most respectful and suave way of doing this? I mean, I could see her again and have more 'fun' with her, but not until she knows the score. That I don't see us working out long term. I have a number of reasons why. Some of them are too personal and would hurt her and would be cold, so I'll never tell her that.

I suppose I should man up and call her to discuss. Texting would be a lot easier, but it's also sort of taking the easy route. I've had a woman LJBF me via text once and it was hard. I was sort of pissed that it happened via text, but at the same time, it saved me from trying to chump talk her out of it. ( which I would have done 2 years ago when I was full on AFC )

Thoughts please.

 

[SingAgn]

You might as well as get the talk out of the way. It sounds like you are trying to avoid it and it will happen again if you don't step up and let her down. It will help you in the future and since you admit to liking her, it might be the best thing for her too before she gets more attached.

 

[WoodB]

I understand the jam you are in. When I was a little younger, I found myself in similar situations; my willie led me to her quim, but my DJ radar told me there was no long term potential for various reasons. At times, it was the smell or taste of her quim, or other sundry matters such as her blubbery arse, sense of humor, shoddy dental work, or whatever. Here are some options I used to truly minimize hurting her feelings, for a true gentleman must always be condiderate.

1. Stop asking her out.

2. Ask her out for good companionship, but no sex.

There is no middle ground when the woman sn really into you but you are not, unless you are willing to use her and discard her, something which I will not do. DJs don't use women.

 

[MikeOck]

I think you are a great girl but you should know that I'm not looking for anything serious right now. I do enjoy your company and would like to keep seeing you on a casual basis, but I don't want to give you the wrong idea.

Do it on the phone. Texting or emailing that stuff is cold in my opinion. If you had been seeing her longer I'd say do it in person, but three dates isn't long enough to require that.

 

[Skyy.]

'Im not looking for anything serious right now. I've had a great time with you and thought we could hang out more to get to know you better'

 

[Greasy Pig]

My stock standard is to wait till she brings up the "what are we?" question and then say: "Look, I'm a confirmed bachelor and I'm really not up for anything serious. I rate you too highly as a person to not be honest with you but that's the stage I'm at in my life right now. If you'd still like to hang out, that would be great."