"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Alpha Male handshakes

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Can anyone give me some thoughts about how to subcommunicate you're Alpha with your handshake. Like when you shake hands with another male, you want to be able to non-verbally say "I'm the dominant male here" but without being an arsehole.

I think there are 3 things that make your handshake Alpha, but if anyone else can add to these, please do:-

1) Good solid firm grip (no limp wrist bull****).

2) Turn your hand so that your hand is above theirs.

3) Hold solid eye contact while hand shaking.

Any more thoughts to add to this?
 

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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Strong/firm grip with eye contact.
 
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Do you honestly think that if you all of the sudden shake a person's hand a certain way, you will automatically stand out in the room and people will think you are a dominant?!

A Handshake won't do it, a change of positive masculine character will.

Otherwise you will look like this douchbag: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4jJkhV2nFs&feature=related
 
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This is nitpicking IMO, and not really useful in many social situations. In business, however, a solid handshake can be a decent advantage over someone with a poor one, all else equal.
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well sure, those hand shakes don't mean anything. But, shaking a mans hand with a strong grip and using eye contact show's character. It won't prove that to anybody besides the guys hand you just shaked.

What I don't like is when someone shakes my hand and it's all weak/limp with no grip.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Well sure, those hand shakes don't mean anything. But, shaking a mans hand with a strong grip and using eye contact show's character. It won't prove that to anybody besides the guys hand you just shaked.

What I don't like is when someone shakes my hand and it's all weak/limp with no grip.
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Having a firm handshake is one thing, a quick and silent show of stature. But some type of mystery, after school, clubhouse boy's club, palm tickling doesn't come to mind when I think of Alpha.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Having a firm handshake is one thing, a quick and silent show of stature. But some type of mystery, after school, clubhouse boy's club, palm tickling doesn't come to mind when I think of Alpha.
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Aye, indeed not.
 
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Whatever happened to just having a reasonable firm handshake? I once shook hands with some overly aggressive guy who was trying to be "alpha" who was squeezing my hands for a couple seconds when I tried to take it away.

Some of you guys take this alpha business seriously.
 
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It doesn't so much communicate "alpha". It just communicates that you're not a b*tch. A good firm handshake with eye contact makes people respect you. A limp hanshake, a handshake where you squeeze too hard, or you try to turn the other guys hand over doesn't reflect that well on you. The first says you're socially inept and a p*ssy. The last two just show you're trying too hard to come off as tough or strong.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Guitar_Whizz said:
Can anyone give me some thoughts about how to subcommunicate you're Alpha with your handshake. Like when you shake hands with another male, you want to be able to non-verbally say "I'm the dominant male here" but without being an arsehole.

I think there are 3 things that make your handshake Alpha, but if anyone else can add to these, please do:-

1) Good solid firm grip (no limp wrist bull****).

2) Turn your hand so that your hand is above theirs.

3) Hold solid eye contact while hand shaking.

Any more thoughts to add to this?
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Ok, the dominant male handshake goes like this. You don't initiate the handshake and when he does, leave your arm at your side and just bend from the elbow with your palm facing upward, almost like when someone gives you "five" but leave the natural curve in your hand instead of making it flat and staight. look him in the eye and say "wassup" and don't convey any hostility. don't grab for his hand, let him take your hand, so it be like he has to put his hand into yours. This conveys leadership. if you can imagine the right way I'm telling you he'll feel dominated. I used to be in a gang and we would respect the gang leader because of all the stories and things we seen and heard about this guy, alot of the girls new he was the leader and I don't care how ugly this guy was, he was alpha, and he would get his pick of the hottest babes that kicked back with us. Every time we got together we would try and shake his hand just cause we respected this dude, and he would do exactly what I described above. if done the right way you'll get the reaction of what you were asking in this post.
 
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why worry if your handshake is more 'alpha' than the other guy's??? I hate crap like this. just give a firm shake and eye contact if you want some respect - but if you think a handshake is going to turn some other male into your inferior - that is ridiculous. we as men don't need this catty competition crap over handshakes.
 
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Whatever happened to just having a reasonable firm handshake? I once shook hands with some overly aggressive guy who was trying to be "alpha" who was squeezing my hands for a couple seconds when I tried to take it away.

Some of you guys take this alpha business seriously.
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Either that or he thought you were cute. :p
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Whoever asks a question like this in the first place is automatically a beta male.
 
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Right on!

A real alpha doesn't worrie about being alpha. He just is.

Even if you alpha someone with these techniques, you're not.

The same way that someone who is cool doesn't have to walk in a room and say "Hey I'm cool!", if someone is alpha he doesn't really have to show it.

Line of thinking: "Have to be alpha" = You may come out as alpha but you're just beta.

Real alpha: "I'm going to be myself. I just am!"
 
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