"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Aloneness and loneliness

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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J. Darko

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You know, these kind of posts usually come from people that don't know what they are talking about. The kind of people that have lots of friends, loving parents and family, lots of girls and complain that they have to visit yet another birth day party, or they had too *** 10 times in one night because Lola f*cks so good. The kind of people that don't know what it's like to have no parents, no family, no friends, no girls, being alone with Christmas and New Years Eve. They'd better be righting scrips for Disney movies and leave the lifestyle coaching to people who actually know what they are talkking about.
 

zekko

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I think a lot of this depends on whether you are an introvert or an extrovert (and to what extent). I know a lot of very extroverted people, and they almost seem to experience pain when they are forced to be alone.

When I grew up, I didn't have any other brothers or sisters of the same age to be around. So I ended up spending a lot of time alone, having to entertain myself. As a result of this, I'm very comfortable with solitude, I even find it comforting. It did cause me some difficulties when I got to school age, and I had to improve my social skills. But that's long past.

Even now, if I am forced to be around too many people for too long a time, it makes me irritable. It all depends on your personality.
 
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J. Darko said:
You know, these kind of posts usually come from people that don't know what they are talking about. The kind of people that have lots of friends, loving parents and family, lots of girls and complain that they have to visit yet another birth day party, or they had too *** 10 times in one night because Lola f*cks so good. The kind of people that don't know what it's like to have no parents, no family, no friends, no girls, being alone with Christmas and New Years Eve. They'd better be righting scrips for Disney movies and leave the lifestyle coaching to people who actually know what they are talkking about.
christmas sucks: its based on a lie the fraudelent christ
 

Remy

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lonliness isnt the refusal to accept aloneness because being alone isn't **** man, it's being LONELY that ****ing kills you. You can be alone without being lonely. Alone is when no one's there, Lonely is when YOU FEEL like no one's there. It's a big damn difference. If you learn to love yourself, then I garun-****ing-tee you, you will never be lonely, and you will never be unloved.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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