"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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almost messed up badly....

.illadelph

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words of advice....try not to talk on aim or any instant messanger service for too long..if u want to tallk, then call her....

anyway, the girl i'm currently digging imed me earlier...and me trying to be slick, played word games...asking really curious questions...sooo stupid..lol

05:15] her: whyd u ask what my mood was?
[05:15] me: why are you so curious?
[05:16] her: hahaha
[05:16] her: well, it was a random question
[05:16] me: psshh, random is what kind of panties are you wearing
[05:16] her: ahahaha
[05:16] me: if any at all
[05:17] her: ahaha
[05:17] her: u were the one who seemed kinda
[05:17] her: not in a great mood haha
[05:18] me: i didn't know u could read emotion behind text
[05:18] her: i can
[05:18] me: that's quite a talent
[05:18] her: i'm talented
[05:18] her: haha
[05:19] me: best things come in smal packages, right?
[05:19] her: haha sometimes!
[05:20] her: i'm really small
[05:20] her: but i'm cool
[05:20] her: HAHAHA jk
[05:23] me: do you feel sexy?
[05:23] her: ahhahaa no
[05:23] me: y not
[05:23] her: nice random questions today
[05:23] her: why are you so curious?
[05:24] me: y is your curiousity directed towards my curiosity towards you?
[05:24] her: because im curious
[05:24] her: :]
[05:25] me: how curious?
[05:25] her: just enough
[05:25] her: haha khoi, you think ur so slick with your word games
[05:25] her: i'm just as slick, buddy
[05:26] me: i think too slick
[05:26] her: ahahaha
[05:26] her: wutre u tryna say HUH
[05:27] me: not what you're thinking, but i'll consider it
[05:27] her: haha ahh ur retarded
[05:28] her: i'm sensing a not exactly positive vibe from you at the moment, actually
[05:30] me: ahh, that sucks
[05:31] me: u don't like word games do you
[05:31] her: hahaha i like em
[05:31] her: yours just confuse me hahah
[05:32] me: i didn't know i was confusing u, lol

damn, i'm an idiot...this kind of **** does not work through text...i almost messed up big...this girl is different...she seems to know what i'm trying to pull....but got confused at the same time...

i'm through with talking to her online...only for limited amounts of time....i don't wanna mess this one up..cos she's # 1 on my list right now..being around christmas time, i might consider a relationship..i dunno..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i'm terribly sorry..but last night, i talked on the phone w/her for 2 hours...i know..that's horrible, all the things we could talk about when we hang out..yodda, yadda....i just enjoy talking with her, and i'm pretty sure she likes it too, or she wouldn't stay on the phone for that long..

we have plans to hang out tomorrow too...i just don't wanna ruin what could come to be....

i hope she calls me tonite...if she doesn't, i will.
 

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Why not just give it a few days man ? Don't answer if she does call and if she doesn't don't call her. Wait until after the holidays. Maybe monday or tuesday
 

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i just don't wanna ruin what could come to be
Stop focusing on an outcome.

The second you start thinking about what "could" become of this, you're setting yourself up for failure.

Take it all a day at a time.
 

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Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
Stop focusing on an outcome.

The second you start thinking about what "could" become of this, you're setting yourself up for failure.

Take it all a day at a time.
Wisest words Ive heard in a LONG time.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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that's really true. i need to realize that and stop thinking about an outcome. take it in stride...

i should have known i can't outwit a girl with mind games...it just won't work. i feel like an ass....ahhhh..
 
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