I have been trying to not limit myself with mixed sets. Reason, they dominate the bars I go to. The other day, I saw a girl who looked bored so I walked up to her while another dude was talking to her friend and she was completely shut off from the conversation and no attention was on her. I went into entertain her and said "you look bored, whats wrong." She started to tell me and he cut her off and said to her "don't talk to him", I tried to introduce myself to the guy by asking what his name was and offer my hand to shake his. He smacked mine and said **** off, I was about to beat his ass. What is a better way to handle this?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
youngmack
Master Don Juan
Next time just whip out your wee wee
Btw: why dont you ever reply to helpful responses/ advice in your posts?
Btw: why dont you ever reply to helpful responses/ advice in your posts?
Poonani Maker
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Well, if you can back yourself up, I would have went, "whoop! what a fvckin crybaby." then if he swung at/or got in my face, then it's on, of course, in My town I wouldn't do this cause the cops will fvck you hard if you get caught jaywalking or riding your bike across a crosswalk..."You're supposed to dismount!..that's a $40 ticket, either pay the fine by mail or see you in court." They tack on every charge imaginable here so I'd have to just try to walk away peacefully. If at a house party then that's what you say. In a public place with strict cops, just laugh at him.
yougottaknow90
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Don't go for the direct confrontation unless you know you can fight or take the dude out, because if you can't, you end up getting your ass beat. And it's either humiliation in front of the one girl vs humiliation in front of the entire club.
Instead, undermine him. Make a derogatory remark about the guy being the chick's older brother or something and walk away with a jackass smirk on your face.
Instead, undermine him. Make a derogatory remark about the guy being the chick's older brother or something and walk away with a jackass smirk on your face.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
i just leave mean... what's the point getting upset over some dumb *****.
right now, it's like the year of the bf over here. so sometimes you can get it wrong, sometimes you can get it right. don't loose your cool over nothing.
right now, it's like the year of the bf over here. so sometimes you can get it wrong, sometimes you can get it right. don't loose your cool over nothing.
irocknike23
Senior Don Juan
Props to you for holding your ground because I would of got in his face and asked him what his problem is if he pulled that crap on me
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Say: "ok, ok, daddy said you can't talk to me, you should listen to him" just to make her feel stupid. And yeah, nowadays you get arrested for fighting some tool in a bar for a girl you don't even know. If you can lay him out in the parking lot like a Navy SEAL in 2 moves then go for it, otherwise, it ain't worth it.
If he continues to mess with you the whole night, then you crack a Heineken bottle over his head and you go balls out. Don't stand to get intimidated/bullied.
If he continues to mess with you the whole night, then you crack a Heineken bottle over his head and you go balls out. Don't stand to get intimidated/bullied.
Mike32ct
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First, it was good that you picked the girl that looked left out. From a purely game perspective, that's smart. BUT, that assumes that it's two girls together and a random dude is only gaming one of them. (It's the instant wingman scenario. The other strange guy rarely objects and sometimes is glad you are helping him out.)
On the other hand, a guy that enters the bar/club with two girls should be avoided IME. It's an uphill battle at best or dealing with a possessive a$shole (like you experienced) at worst. If you MUST go there, talk to the dude first to see if he's a cool guy.
Most of all, arrive at the bar early and be aware of who comes in with whom.
No doubt this loser deserves a beating lol, but I'm not a fighter so I probably would have dropped it and let it go.
On the other hand, a guy that enters the bar/club with two girls should be avoided IME. It's an uphill battle at best or dealing with a possessive a$shole (like you experienced) at worst. If you MUST go there, talk to the dude first to see if he's a cool guy.
Most of all, arrive at the bar early and be aware of who comes in with whom.
No doubt this loser deserves a beating lol, but I'm not a fighter so I probably would have dropped it and let it go.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.