I have been trying to not limit myself with mixed sets. Reason, they dominate the bars I go to. The other day, I saw a girl who looked bored so I walked up to her while another dude was talking to her friend and she was completely shut off from the conversation and no attention was on her. I went into entertain her and said "you look bored, whats wrong." She started to tell me and he cut her off and said to her "don't talk to him", I tried to introduce myself to the guy by asking what his name was and offer my hand to shake his. He smacked mine and said **** off, I was about to beat his ass. What is a better way to handle this?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Almost fights mixed sets
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
youngmack
Master Don Juan
Next time just whip out your wee wee
Btw: why dont you ever reply to helpful responses/ advice in your posts?
Btw: why dont you ever reply to helpful responses/ advice in your posts?
Poonani Maker
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Well, if you can back yourself up, I would have went, "whoop! what a fvckin crybaby." then if he swung at/or got in my face, then it's on, of course, in My town I wouldn't do this cause the cops will fvck you hard if you get caught jaywalking or riding your bike across a crosswalk..."You're supposed to dismount!..that's a $40 ticket, either pay the fine by mail or see you in court." They tack on every charge imaginable here so I'd have to just try to walk away peacefully. If at a house party then that's what you say. In a public place with strict cops, just laugh at him.
yougottaknow90
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Don't go for the direct confrontation unless you know you can fight or take the dude out, because if you can't, you end up getting your ass beat. And it's either humiliation in front of the one girl vs humiliation in front of the entire club.
Instead, undermine him. Make a derogatory remark about the guy being the chick's older brother or something and walk away with a jackass smirk on your face.
Instead, undermine him. Make a derogatory remark about the guy being the chick's older brother or something and walk away with a jackass smirk on your face.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
i just leave mean... what's the point getting upset over some dumb *****.
right now, it's like the year of the bf over here. so sometimes you can get it wrong, sometimes you can get it right. don't loose your cool over nothing.
right now, it's like the year of the bf over here. so sometimes you can get it wrong, sometimes you can get it right. don't loose your cool over nothing.
irocknike23
Senior Don Juan
Props to you for holding your ground because I would of got in his face and asked him what his problem is if he pulled that crap on me
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Say: "ok, ok, daddy said you can't talk to me, you should listen to him" just to make her feel stupid. And yeah, nowadays you get arrested for fighting some tool in a bar for a girl you don't even know. If you can lay him out in the parking lot like a Navy SEAL in 2 moves then go for it, otherwise, it ain't worth it.
If he continues to mess with you the whole night, then you crack a Heineken bottle over his head and you go balls out. Don't stand to get intimidated/bullied.
If he continues to mess with you the whole night, then you crack a Heineken bottle over his head and you go balls out. Don't stand to get intimidated/bullied.
Mike32ct
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First, it was good that you picked the girl that looked left out. From a purely game perspective, that's smart. BUT, that assumes that it's two girls together and a random dude is only gaming one of them. (It's the instant wingman scenario. The other strange guy rarely objects and sometimes is glad you are helping him out.)
On the other hand, a guy that enters the bar/club with two girls should be avoided IME. It's an uphill battle at best or dealing with a possessive a$shole (like you experienced) at worst. If you MUST go there, talk to the dude first to see if he's a cool guy.
Most of all, arrive at the bar early and be aware of who comes in with whom.
No doubt this loser deserves a beating lol, but I'm not a fighter so I probably would have dropped it and let it go.
On the other hand, a guy that enters the bar/club with two girls should be avoided IME. It's an uphill battle at best or dealing with a possessive a$shole (like you experienced) at worst. If you MUST go there, talk to the dude first to see if he's a cool guy.
Most of all, arrive at the bar early and be aware of who comes in with whom.
No doubt this loser deserves a beating lol, but I'm not a fighter so I probably would have dropped it and let it go.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.