She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
damn, i envy you dude. I hope to be pulling chicks that age when I hit my 30's.I dated a 21 year old when I was 33. I also dated a 19 year old when I was 35. I'm currently 39 and my GF is 23. We've been together for over a year.
Do YOU think I'm too old to be dating these women?
Nah, not looking for an LTR yet. More of casual dating/sex.If you want an LTR that will work, 18 will be problems, 22 is perfect. 18 is a girl, 22 a woman. I generally apply to the half plus 7 rule. Lets round you off to 30, so 22. Sex only is a different matter.
I am 55 my wife is 40, but looks much, much younger (that is her in my profile pic). I have a couple of very young orbiters. I don't have sex with them, but I could and if my wife steps out of line (which she nearly just did) they would become plates. They just would never work out.
Keep in mind, they will age. I don't think an exclusive monogamous relationship with and 18 year old would work. Most 18 year olds are too immature for a relationship. That does not mean you cannot keep them in your rotation. If an 18 year old stuck around somehow for a few years she would get older (duh) so it is possible.
I had a 21 year old when I was 36.
It was much easier to do it in my 30s than it was in my 20s. Being confident, positive, social and having a sense of humour go a long way. Work on those parts of your personality and you'll see the women gravitate towards you.damn, i envy you dude. I hope to be pulling chicks that age when I hit my 30's.
Explain your notion of casual dating, please? Even if you want an LTR you are going to do a lot of dating and nexting.Nah, not looking for an LTR yet. More of casual dating/sex.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Problem for me is, I was fat and ugly when younger, and now in my late 20's I decided to take up fitness/weight lifting, and now look the best I ever have.It was much easier to do it in my 30s than it was in my 20s. Being confident, positive, social and having a sense of humour go a long way. Work on those parts of your personality and you'll see the women gravitate towards you.
I know a guy who's 46 married to a 26 year old...don't know if she has daddy issues, but maybe she does. That's the biggest age gap relationship I know of though.Agree with the other posters...you can easily pull those women well into your 30's. Maybe even when you are older, if they have daddy issues hahaha.
I want to date different girls, maybe even a few at the same time. I missed out on that in my early 20's due to my horrible appearance (fat, bad acne, glasses, etc), and now want to make up for that in my late 20's now that I look somewhat decent.Explain your notion of casual dating, please? Even if you want an LTR you are going to do a lot of dating and nexting.
My program has an LTR as the goal, but in the meantime you are managing a 3 woman rotation. You have a Tuesday night gal, a Thursday night gal, and a Saturday night gal.
For the first 8 weeks you do not promise exclusivity with them, in fact most relationships end by the 8 week mark.
When I was running my rotations I would have sex about 3 times with each gal, meaning I had sex nearly 10 times a week. Is that set up anything like casual dating?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
interesting information. What age would that generally be? or does it vary?As someone who has worked with a youth program for 15+ years I can offer the following advice.
There is a certain age in a young woman's life where she opens her mind to the possibility of older men. Before that moment happens it doesn't matter who you are or what you look like, or what you do, you are just not on her radar at all. You may as well be invisible. All that matters is in her mind you are too old for her.
This concept reminds me of a high school mindset. Remember when you were in high school and someone just one grade higher than you seemed SO much older. That mindset persists for a few years for some people even after high school. There is no magic age. It just happens.
However once that magic moment happens you would be very surprised at how much older of men a young woman will open herself up to. Last summer I had a young woman profess her love for me and she is 20 years younger.
I see this happen every single year as many of the same young people return to my workplace year after year and basically use the job to put them through college and university. There is a large group of 20 somethings and many attractive young women. It is very obvious when that switch has been flipped and she is suddenly available to older men.
ok, thanks.It's not the same for everyone. From what I've seen anywhere between 19-26.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.