Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2002
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- Age
- 47
- Location
- Hiding in Penkitten's Linen Closet
Egg nog, anybody?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Allen, please remove my advice posts from the DJ Bible
- Thread starter Wyldfire
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Kindly don't "kiddo" me...I am 39 years old. I'd prefer not to be referred to as "honey" either.
Moderating this site is a walk in the park compared to some sites. The subject matter isn't really controversial for the most part and the flames are quite mild. I used to run a Gender Issues forum that got several thousand posts a day. I moderated it by myself and the subject matter was highly controversial and volatile. Imagine a site more active than this one with half of the members being radical feminists and the other half being angry men that hate feminism...and with no topic being off limits. This site doesn't even allow political discussions at all because of how volatile it gets very quickly. The site I moderated alone was almost entirely political and the subject matter instilled a great amount of passion in people.
Some of the moderators here are just lazy and don't want to do the job. They would rather sacrifice the integrity and quality of the site than make even the most minimal of efforts to...well...actually moderate. Using avoidance techniques and just shutting down entire threads and discussions instead of deleting problem posts is NOT moderation. If they aren't willing to put the quality and integrity of the site first, they shouldn't be a moderator...period.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Helter Skelter
Master Don Juan
Gio,
Your arguing with wyldfire is not as exciting a cutiiepiereturns.
Whats the chance of bringing her back?
"Shut the hell up"
Am I the only one that liked her?
I'm starting a bring back cutiiepie movement
Your arguing with wyldfire is not as exciting a cutiiepiereturns.
Whats the chance of bringing her back?
"Shut the hell up"
Am I the only one that liked her?
I'm starting a bring back cutiiepie movement
No, don't. More work = More pissed off mods.Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Gio,
Your arguing with wyldfire is not as exciting a cutiiepiereturns.
Whats the chance of bringing her back?
"Shut the hell up"
Am I the only one that liked her?
I'm starting a bring back cutiiepie movement
It's not as exciting because he always loses...Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Gio,
Your arguing with wyldfire is not as exciting a cutiiepiereturns.
Whats the chance of bringing her back?
"Shut the hell up"
Am I the only one that liked her?
I'm starting a bring back cutiiepie movement
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
No, I got it right. You're is way off, though. I don't "blather", I "preach". I'm not at all ignorant...I'm quite intelligent, actually. I AM twisted. I'm not cheap or a hooker. In fact, if anything I'm probably too picky.
Listen, I don't want the pet names because I'm not here to be all cutesy and flirt. I'm here to give advice and in this forum I'm attempting to prevent this site from sinking into the sewer by being so adamant in my complaints. It would seem that a couple of the moderators like to hurl around the tired old "Attention Wh*re" charge...and I'd really rather not have anyone post stuff to me that they wouldn't say to any of the other guys on here. Don't take it personally.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Wyldfire, has it ever occured to you that you have a huge pride problem? Stop being so prideful. You are not the savior of SS, and you aren't the most important member here or whatever either. You can't just leave for years and then expect everyone to cater to you when you come back. Sites grow and change. Deal with it.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
It's a lot bigger than it used to be, so yeah, obviously it has.
Bigger is not always better. Quality above quantity is my motto. There USED to be substance and fresh, good material posted regularly here. Not so anymore. Most of the best contributors are gone and it's mostly a bunch of kids with overblown egos giving sh*t advice and insulting people who ask questions while offering virtually nothing in the way of advice.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
I'm the one that made the point in the first place, you ho. I said grow as in gotten bigger, and change as in it's not the same anymore.
So Wyldfire, why not help do something about it BY POSTING ADVICE instead of asking for your posts to be deleted out of the DJB, and starting three threads about the same topic on BH+S?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.