"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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All you have to be to get in the top 30% of each gender is to be a Healthy Weight & Average looking face. But that 30% woman doesn't want a 30% man.

BaronOfHair

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Truth... we 'boomers' have raised a generation of victims. We like to b1tch about younger people, but we created this sh1t
Those who assert that The US/Western Civilization more generally is founded on Christian values may be onto something... Decades worth of us have been desperate for a savior to swoop down from on high and "save" us. The 20th Century-today has been unique, in that we know expect The System to do that, rather an itinerant preacher from Galilee who died back in antiquity
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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MatureDJ

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Bro, think of the mathematical fallacy you're saying. Even if the top 30% of women only want the top 10% of men, there aren't enough men for all of them. Only one-third will suceed.
These chicks will succeed 1/3 of the time. :rolleyes: They will make rules for the 90%Cels, but break those rules with the 10%. :mad:

I really think the meme of men no longer being interested in women is simply that they are tired of having to hew to a ruleset that Chads don't have to.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I really think the meme of men no longer being interested in women is simply that they are tired of having to hew to a ruleset that Chads don't have to.
It's more the issue that most women are now obese and tattooed imo.
 

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For a healthy-weight, average looking man, the practical reality is:

Stay fit.
Dress well.
Be socially competent.
Have a stable life.
Meet people in real life, not only on apps.

That doesn't guarantee a model level partner, but it puts someone in a much stronger position than obsessing over whether they're in the 25th, 30th, or 40th percentile.
 

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you just gotta looksmaxx man , as much as possible. Face, fashion and body.

I would go so far as to say, spend most of your disposable income on this - only wear designer clothes and nice suits if you can afford it.

maybe consider tattoos also. Because this is what is trending for attraction.

And you are older - stop looking at data for younger age brackets. Look at the dating landscape for YOUR age bracket.

Godspeed brother.
 

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:cry::cry::cry:
you just gotta looksmaxx man , as much as possible. Face, fashion and body.

I would go so far as to say, spend most of your disposable income on this - only wear designer clothes and nice suits if you can afford it.

maybe consider tattoos also. Because this is what is trending for attraction.

And you are older - stop looking at data for younger age brackets. Look at the dating landscape for YOUR age bracket.

Godspeed brother.
First step bro for you is stopping drinking most nights.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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zekko

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Think about it..... 70% of men and women are overweight or obese in the USA (similar in UK), so no higher than a 4/10. So just being a healthy weight, somewhat slim/fit and having an average face gets you in the top 30%, perhaps even top 25% because there's always guys and gals who are of healthy BMI's but have butt-ugly faces.
I'm always interested in hearing these percentages, at least you give some reason behind your statement. I did a quick check on Google AI, and it said 75% men were overweight in the US. I didn't realize things were that grim here in the West.

I remember Coach Corey Wayne used to talk about the 3% man, basically I think he said all you had to do was follow his system and you'd be in that top 3% Rich Cooper, who wrote "The Unplugged Alpha", talks about the top 1% or 5% - follow his advice and you're basically a 1% or 5% man already because so many guys are Betas or plugged in or whatever.

Somehow I get the feeling most of that misses the point, but whatever.
 
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