"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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All this talk of Purpose is getting me confused.

Knight of Roses

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I hear it all the time: "Focus on the grind, your purpose, blah blah"

Thing is, I already make good money, working 40-50 hrs a week. So I got plenty of ample time left over, in which often times, I get bored af. But you know, its a job, a white collar job for which I went to school for. But like everything else in life, sh1t gets boring after you do it for so long.

So question is, does this purpose thing apply to me too? I mean, what am I suppose to do? Focus on making more money by working 60-70 hrs a week? I mean, I don't really want to work that many hours, LoL.

Or does Purpose apply to hobbies as well such as gym, golf, etc?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I hear it all the time: "Focus on the grind, your purpose, blah blah"

Thing is, I already make good money, working 40-50 hrs a week. So I got plenty of ample time left over, in which often times, I get bored af. But you know, its a job, a white collar job for which I went to school for. But like everything else in life, sh1t gets boring after you do it for so long.

So question is, does this purpose thing apply to me too? I mean, what am I suppose to do? Focus on making more money by working 60-70 hrs a week? I mean, I don't really want to work that many hours, LoL.

Or does Purpose apply to hobbies as well such as gym, golf, etc?
Read The Alchemist if you haven't already. It may help you tremendously. I know it did with me.
 

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I hear it all the time: "Focus on the grind, your purpose, blah blah"

Thing is, I already make good money, working 40-50 hrs a week. So I got plenty of ample time left over, in which often times, I get bored af. But you know, its a job, a white collar job for which I went to school for. But like everything else in life, sh1t gets boring after you do it for so long.

So question is, does this purpose thing apply to me too? I mean, what am I suppose to do? Focus on making more money by working 60-70 hrs a week? I mean, I don't really want to work that many hours, LoL.

Or does Purpose apply to hobbies as well such as gym, golf, etc?
If your "purpose" is to bang hot broads then focus on that.
 

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You need a PASSION in life. Not women. And ideally it is your career but few are fortunate enough, brave enough, or woke enough to line that up (and there is risk in trying, by leaving a well paying career aside, only to find out it isn’t what you thought would make you happy). So you can have a career that isn’t your purpose, but you need an outlet for your creative energy and passion. That could be hobbies, volunteer work, etc. If you have nothing like that, you need to do some soul searching.
 

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Like everything in life, you need to have balance. If you focus too much on women, you can forget everything else that is important to have a happy life and this can make you miserable and even less successful with them in a downward spiral. But on the other hand you can´t totally ignore women and expect them to just come to you, because they won´t - the vast majority of women are extremely passive.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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A very valid question.

I can give you an example from my life.

Survival and replication is the only purpose of any form of life.

Yet we are all going to die.

Maximising my chances of survival and replication is the only purpose I have.

Health
Wealth
Love

is the holy trifecta.

Health -

I workout daily, cook all my own meals, no junk, just wholesome food, lost over 100 pounds.

My purpose health wise is to reach my genetic potential muscle size wise with around 10% body fat.

I get blood work done routinely and invested in comprehensive medical insurance.

Wealth -

I have two degrees, paid for by the government, I'm flying abroad '21 for a research degree in a field im very enthusiastic about.

I aim to start making over $200k/annum after '23.

Save up/invest/compound enough to retire by 45 with some passive source of income.

Love -

My purpose is to experience abundance in terms of my love life, whilst expanding my social connections and status.

Contrary to the advice on these forums, I'm not interested in increasing my kill count.

Instead I want to develop meaningful long term connections with people and just understand human nature.

During this process I want to travel and experience the world, different people and their culture.
 

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If your passion turns out to be your job or business, great. Otherwise, a job or business that you LIKE is fine. Then you can save that passion for a hobby, and you won't get sick of that hobby because it won't be associated with the stress of work lol.

But yes, your "purpose" can have multiple facets to it. It can have work goals, money goals, health/fitness goals, relationship goals, hobby goals, etc. Just don't spread yourself TOO thin.
 

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I hear it all the time: "Focus on the grind, your purpose, blah blah"

Thing is, I already make good money, working 40-50 hrs a week. So I got plenty of ample time left over, in which often times, I get bored af. But you know, its a job, a white collar job for which I went to school for. But like everything else in life, sh1t gets boring after you do it for so long.

So question is, does this purpose thing apply to me too? I mean, what am I suppose to do? Focus on making more money by working 60-70 hrs a week? I mean, I don't really want to work that many hours, LoL.

Or does Purpose apply to hobbies as well such as gym, golf, etc?
Find a woman(-en). Girls take up a lot if time.
 
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