"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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All the best guys, and farewell

runner83

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Maybe it was the Jophil thread that did it for me, maybe it's the fact that I'm currently working 12 -14 hours a day and flat out.

Either way, I'll be taking a break from the forum for the next 3 months. Maybe I'll be back after that, maybe I won't.

Just wanted to thank all of those people who provided positive feedback in my broken arm recovery journal which I kept from late January through to June, in particular Fuglydude, Jitterbug and Huffman.

It got me through those days,and its now been almost 2 months since I last updated the journal. My arm is not 100% but I don't think about it much these days and yesterday I did a 10km run in 42min, 34s, finishing in the top 6%.

For me, I don't see any real benefit in being on the forum anymore and its time to move on. I've learnt lessons here that I will never forget, but in the end, the only real learning is out in the real world.

All the best to you guys. In a manner of speaking you've been like brothers to me, and while it pains me to go, it's something I know I must do for my own growth and self improvement.

Live life to the full, be true to yourself and judge yourself and others by actions, not words.

Peace.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jitterbug

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It was good knowing you. Good luck, enjoy the journey!
 

squirrels

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You're always welcome back if you need to talk. But don't sweat this forum. :) Enjoy your life...you only get one.
 

Die Hard

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You'll be back and you know it. You can't escape us, we'll never let you go! YOU HEAR ME?!! You'll be baaaaaaaaaack!!

Seriously, good luck to you, man :up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Buddha_Mind

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Good luck man -- I know from having taken breaks it can be a good thing -- but don't distance yourselves from some of the principles you've learned here too much! It can be a slow and gradual process of slipping!
 

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Good luck... And no more extreme arm wrestling!!
 

ThunderMaverick

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Arm wrestling? THAT'S how you broke your arm?

Alpha. lol Hope you get it to 100 percent soon!


Feel free to always come back if you need a refresher course. Sometimes out in the world we can get wrapped up in things that can make us regress. You feel a bit of backsliding coming on and we'll be here for you.


Take it easy, and good luck!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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