That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
squirrels said:Let's start at the beginning. What do you have to offer a woman?
:crackup:BuckwildNYC said:Doesnt matter.......he could be the biggest waste of human life on the planet and I guarantee u there will be a female counterpart to him. If you are a fat sloppy mess then u have to look for a fat sloppy mess of a girlfriend. There are are more women than men so if u cant find one then u aint looking hard enough............
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
First of all, do you eat food?we all eat food said:where is she huh?
i havent had a gf in 9 months, havent hooked up with a girl in 4 months, my game is pathetic, i cant find any girl they just arent their.
Why do you keep calling people "professor" lol?Gangster Of Love said:Look professor, ...
Wow, none are good enough? There's your problem, lose that attitude. Or better yet as stated above, lose the desperation for a girlfriend. My games not even very good and I can tell you that.we all eat food said:i get cha, but i cant find any girls, i would approach but none our good enough
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah maybe after high school you can date high school freshmen...we all eat food said:yeah, i can spit game and all that stuff, but i cant find any girls! they are all the same, maybe after high school it will be different, i havent found anyone and its pissing me off!
I just don't get this. Why does a guy's personality suck if all he wants is a gf (not even this guy in particular but any guy)? Different people have different goals in life. For some its to go out in the world and accomplish all this stuff, and for some its just to have a gf to cuddle with and make goo-goo eyes with, and for some its just getting through each day. Why is the first person a "winner" and the last two are "losers", according to society? It's not like they're doing anything wrong, and by wrong I mean they're not hurting anyone. I seriously don't get that.Obsidian said:Seriously, if all you want in life is a gf, your personality sucks. Get some better dreams, and then start pursuing them.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.