That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
squirrels said:Let's start at the beginning. What do you have to offer a woman?
:crackup:BuckwildNYC said:Doesnt matter.......he could be the biggest waste of human life on the planet and I guarantee u there will be a female counterpart to him. If you are a fat sloppy mess then u have to look for a fat sloppy mess of a girlfriend. There are are more women than men so if u cant find one then u aint looking hard enough............
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
First of all, do you eat food?we all eat food said:where is she huh?
i havent had a gf in 9 months, havent hooked up with a girl in 4 months, my game is pathetic, i cant find any girl they just arent their.
Why do you keep calling people "professor" lol?Gangster Of Love said:Look professor, ...
Wow, none are good enough? There's your problem, lose that attitude. Or better yet as stated above, lose the desperation for a girlfriend. My games not even very good and I can tell you that.we all eat food said:i get cha, but i cant find any girls, i would approach but none our good enough
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah maybe after high school you can date high school freshmen...we all eat food said:yeah, i can spit game and all that stuff, but i cant find any girls! they are all the same, maybe after high school it will be different, i havent found anyone and its pissing me off!
I just don't get this. Why does a guy's personality suck if all he wants is a gf (not even this guy in particular but any guy)? Different people have different goals in life. For some its to go out in the world and accomplish all this stuff, and for some its just to have a gf to cuddle with and make goo-goo eyes with, and for some its just getting through each day. Why is the first person a "winner" and the last two are "losers", according to society? It's not like they're doing anything wrong, and by wrong I mean they're not hurting anyone. I seriously don't get that.Obsidian said:Seriously, if all you want in life is a gf, your personality sucks. Get some better dreams, and then start pursuing them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.