"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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All county dances (Non school)

Embrace

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Last night I went to an all county dance that is put on by an entertainment company and not through the school district. So obviously the rules are way less strict.

The only rule basically is no drugs or alcohol in the building.

So anyway, I have not been to one of these dances in a long time with my new self. I decided that I would attempt to dance with whoever the hell I wanted.

Dont get me wrong, some times I hesitated, but I approached quite of few chicks that I have never met. Others that I have seen around school.

I was shut down a majority of the time, but suceeded a few times as well.

And let me tell you, it's true what Pook (I think) says. That rejections is soooooo much better than regret.

I would of felt terrible if I left the dance without trying last night. But I approached chicks, attempted and now I laugh with my buddies about getting shut down. Its al fun.


However, I'm curious some experience you guys have with this type of thing. I have never been in a club, but this is very loud and very dark. You have to yell in order for someone to hear you right next to their head.

So how are you supposed to approach chicks this way? Its tough.. you cant gain any type of rapport because you can barley hear.

What I was doing is smiling at girls, askign there name and either asking them why we aren't dancing or saying lets dance.

Now being that I got shut down a lot I would like to hearsome stuff that people have had success with when getting HB strangers to dance with you.

Input. Go! :up:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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comic_relief

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Never had a problem. Join a dance lesson or two for swing and you will have to approach. It's a lot of fun.

I did and made out with the girl and almost had sex with the girl, but she realized that she had a boyfriend already.

oh well, it is not too hard especially since women are easy to get, but hard to keep.

btw good to know that you are getting out there.

comic_relief
 

iCandy

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Hey dude,

I totally understand where you're coming from. What I've done in the past is to bring girls that I know along with me. We'll dance and I'll bring 2-3 girls next to me and dance with all of them at the same time. I'll be sandwiched between them. This gains social proof and it'll give you the confidence to just go up and approach. With your new social proof rejection should reduce.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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