"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm on a forced sobriety for 14 days after my procedure. I'm wondering if I should try to continue it. Common sense says I should. Here's a story from a few weeks ago...

I was at bar and started drinking, then I Ubered to another bar, then another, then another, then another, then a strip club. Some of these bars were 30 miles away in opposite ends of town, and some of them I only know I was there because of checking my Uber log the next day. I must have Ubered 100 miles that day.

Unfortunately, alcohol can sometimes help my social skills. And sometimes I feel like my emotions get caught up until I introduce some substance that unlocks them. I could be angry for weeks and not know it until I have a few drinks, then I realize I've been angry for quite some time.

Aside from the negative effects alcohol has on your body, it also would cause me to be less motivated for my business. And I doubt any decent girl wants to date a drunk. But usually once I drink one, I will end up drinking 6-10 at least.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Stay dry. It's time for you to tackle life as it really is.
 

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I believe they call it a social lubricant. Though like motor oil, it tends to make mess of things if used too much. :\

What I tried last night was drinking bourbon in a glass. That helped slow down how much I drank through out the night.

As for emotion, it does seem to bring out our "true" selves supposedly. Though I wouldn't take it personally if it comes out as it can be misguided energy, which is beneficial in other things like being an entrepreneur or making dupe music.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I believe they call it a social lubricant. Though like motor oil, it tends to make mess of things if used too much. :\

What I tried last night was drinking bourbon in a glass. That helped slow down how much I drank through out the night.

As for emotion, it does seem to bring out our "true" selves supposedly. Though I wouldn't take it personally if it comes out as it can be misguided energy, which is beneficial in other things like being an entrepreneur or making dupe music.
Some of what's released was controlled for a good reasons. So some subconscious thoughts you wouldn't have acted on came come out. Since the inhibitions are reduced. Self control is a good thing, no?
 

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I'm on a forced sobriety for 14 days after my procedure. I'm wondering if I should try to continue it. Common sense says I should. Here's a story from a few weeks ago...

I was at bar and started drinking, then I Ubered to another bar, then another, then another, then another, then a strip club. Some of these bars were 30 miles away in opposite ends of town, and some of them I only know I was there because of checking my Uber log the next day. I must have Ubered 100 miles that day.

Unfortunately, alcohol can sometimes help my social skills. And sometimes I feel like my emotions get caught up until I introduce some substance that unlocks them. I could be angry for weeks and not know it until I have a few drinks, then I realize I've been angry for quite some time.

Aside from the negative effects alcohol has on your body, it also would cause me to be less motivated for my business. And I doubt any decent girl wants to date a drunk. But usually once I drink one, I will end up drinking 6-10 at least.
did you talk to at least one person in these bars apart from buying alcohol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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