"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm on a forced sobriety for 14 days after my procedure. I'm wondering if I should try to continue it. Common sense says I should. Here's a story from a few weeks ago...

I was at bar and started drinking, then I Ubered to another bar, then another, then another, then another, then a strip club. Some of these bars were 30 miles away in opposite ends of town, and some of them I only know I was there because of checking my Uber log the next day. I must have Ubered 100 miles that day.

Unfortunately, alcohol can sometimes help my social skills. And sometimes I feel like my emotions get caught up until I introduce some substance that unlocks them. I could be angry for weeks and not know it until I have a few drinks, then I realize I've been angry for quite some time.

Aside from the negative effects alcohol has on your body, it also would cause me to be less motivated for my business. And I doubt any decent girl wants to date a drunk. But usually once I drink one, I will end up drinking 6-10 at least.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stay dry. It's time for you to tackle life as it really is.
 

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I believe they call it a social lubricant. Though like motor oil, it tends to make mess of things if used too much. :\

What I tried last night was drinking bourbon in a glass. That helped slow down how much I drank through out the night.

As for emotion, it does seem to bring out our "true" selves supposedly. Though I wouldn't take it personally if it comes out as it can be misguided energy, which is beneficial in other things like being an entrepreneur or making dupe music.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I believe they call it a social lubricant. Though like motor oil, it tends to make mess of things if used too much. :\

What I tried last night was drinking bourbon in a glass. That helped slow down how much I drank through out the night.

As for emotion, it does seem to bring out our "true" selves supposedly. Though I wouldn't take it personally if it comes out as it can be misguided energy, which is beneficial in other things like being an entrepreneur or making dupe music.
Some of what's released was controlled for a good reasons. So some subconscious thoughts you wouldn't have acted on came come out. Since the inhibitions are reduced. Self control is a good thing, no?
 

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I'm on a forced sobriety for 14 days after my procedure. I'm wondering if I should try to continue it. Common sense says I should. Here's a story from a few weeks ago...

I was at bar and started drinking, then I Ubered to another bar, then another, then another, then another, then a strip club. Some of these bars were 30 miles away in opposite ends of town, and some of them I only know I was there because of checking my Uber log the next day. I must have Ubered 100 miles that day.

Unfortunately, alcohol can sometimes help my social skills. And sometimes I feel like my emotions get caught up until I introduce some substance that unlocks them. I could be angry for weeks and not know it until I have a few drinks, then I realize I've been angry for quite some time.

Aside from the negative effects alcohol has on your body, it also would cause me to be less motivated for my business. And I doubt any decent girl wants to date a drunk. But usually once I drink one, I will end up drinking 6-10 at least.
did you talk to at least one person in these bars apart from buying alcohol
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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