Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Anyone else think more than a couple drinks significantly hampers their game?

I've been noticing that if I'm out with my boys and we start to drink and then chat girls up I have a harder time... I think 3 strong drinks is my cap before I start getting stupid.

I'm going to try going out soon sometime and not have more than 3 drinks and see what happens. Now that I think about it, whenever I go out (with friends at least), I drink pretty heavily. It's social, but still.

I'll have to give it a shot.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lord Shinra

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For me its dogsh!t. I do just the same whether I'm drunk or sober.
 

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if you're really trying to pick up chicks then it's good not to get real drunk. But when I'm going out to bars, picking up chicks usually isn't my main goal so I just drink however much I want.
 

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Obsidian said:
But when I'm going out to bars, picking up chicks usually isn't my main goal so I just drink however much I want.
That's true with me too. I don't usually go out to pick girls up. It's just natural that if I see a girl I'm interested in I make my way... Usually, there's at least one girl I'm interested in wherever bar I'm at.
 

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It's different for everyone. Alcohol actually improves my game since there isn't much difference between 6 beers and 15 beers for me. All that changes is that I'm more prone to do more ridiculous stuff like challenge girls to dance offs. In combination with cocaine I find my game is practically flawless because I read and react to girls nearly perfectly, but I try not to do that as often because not everyone is cool with it.

Oh, and like the above posters... when I go out my main objective is to have fun. Not to pick girls up. Picking girls up just sort of happens and is part of the fun.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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:( lol I dont drink 1 because I am underage and 2 it seems like a boring thing to do....yes you have fun doing it but I dont need something that impairs everything I do to have fun but that's just me.
 

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Of course alcohol is going to hamper your game at some point. The one thing alcohol does for me is it literally deletes any form of approach anxiety. This is great but who gives a flying poop when you can't close. Its just liquid courage. Wish I could harness the positive without the negative haha.. i would be golden.

Till than just gotta work on it in other ways.
 

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As of lately i have noticed that to much alcohol hinders my game. Needless to say that thier have been to many instances that if i were sober( or at least less drunk) that i could have K or F closed a girl as opposed to getting a # close or leaving them hanging and not escalating when i should.

Fortuanlty i have decided to stop drinking for now and i have become more active in sports and working out, so right now i could care less to get drunk. Not to mention that when drunk girls are even easier to lay. So with them being drunk and me being sober it's A+ game for me.
 

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Quit drinking when I went to a party to talk to women, but got faced, and ended up sitting on a tractor to avoid making an ass out of myself (the party was in a barn).
 

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Is it just me, or are people who go to parties and don't drink weird? I'm pretty sure the whole point of partying is to

A. Get Drunk/Stoned
B. BS with your friends
C. Hit on chicks

Now if you take alcohol out of the equation, it's not going to be as much fun doing B or C. I can understand not getting drunk, as I'm usually the guy drinking beer after beer and still not showing it. Not a brag, the beer here sucks unless you go to the liquor store...and then it's warm.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Martinis are like t!tties. One's not enough, but three is too many.
 
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