"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I dump my LDR gf of about 7-8 months because of the fact that she started to drink. I don't mind hanging out with people who drink but I don't want a girlfriend who drinks, not because I'm insecure but because I don't see any point in it and by drinking she loses her rarity because she becomes like everyone else. In my opinion I think that people only drink so they can get loose and have fun (outer game), whereas an individual who is outgoing and naturally fun doesn't need alcohol to let loose and have fun (inner game). Should I get rid of her because of this trait. She even knows that I don't like it but she keeps doing it.
 

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Nah, you should keep her. You can try to persuade her from drinking "like a sailor". Me, personally, I don't want a girl that's going to go around getting drunk. I would try to persuade her from doing it....you can be a bit forceful ( not too forceful though )
 

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It should be your decision if you want to keep her cause it´s your girlfriend.

Independent of this, it´s good that you don´t drink.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by syncmaster
if she's the same age as you , 16, then she's too young.
Eh, you're one of the old schoolers, aye? 16 is a very normal age to be an alcoholic now. ;) Even a 14 year old getting smashed will only raise one or two eyebrows. Kinda sad.

Oh, and blue... I would do whatever you feel is right. If you don't like her dinking, and are smart enough to know the cons of drinking, and are brave enough to dump dump her because you think you deserve better... then go for it. :)
 

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You shouldnt dump her....she is so fine!!!!!! oh and just becuase she is an acholoic that doesnt mean anything! ok i dont care if she drinks, she still sucks my ****
 

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" In my opinion "


Who gives about your opinion!
 

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jk bluelemond your the **** on this post!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Come on. It's OK to drink.

Also:

In my opinion I think that people only drink so they can get loose and have fun (outer game), whereas an individual who is outgoing and naturally fun doesn't need alcohol to let loose and have fun (inner game).
That's true, but if you mix naturally funny with some alcohol you can have even more fun. Now, I'm not saying you should go get drunk every night but it's okay to drunk from time to time, just like every other normal human being.
 

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i thought this thread would be

"i got smashed and couldn't crack a fat, am i a homo?"

its not that thread.

but you are a homo.

get her extra drunk, shove it up her ass, you'll like it more because you're gay, and she'll stop drinking so it doesn't happen again.
 

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Originally posted by quest
i thought this thread would be

"i got smashed and couldn't crack a fat, am i a homo?"

its not that thread.

but you are a homo.

get her extra drunk, shove it up her ass, you'll like it more because you're gay, and she'll stop drinking so it doesn't happen again.
:crackup:
 

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I don't like how people don't respond to posts seriously.

Well you can do one of two things. You can change your stance on drinking, or you can dump her. Speaking as a guy who said the same crap you're saying when he was 16, I say try to lighten up on the drinking thing. It's only going to get worse in college. And hopefully, you will someday be around people who drink not to get ripped and vomit everywhere, but who show you the positive side to drinking moderately.

Also, I don't know how this girl drinks. If I didn't drink and she got blasted like all the time and was passing out or I had to take care of her drunken ass ever, I'd dump her. Actually, I do drink and I still don't want a girl who gets blasted all the time. I don't want a girl who drinks much more than I'm willing to.

Would you be OK with it if she just didn't do it around you?

This is definitely a decision to be made based on a personal preference.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I would go with talking to her about it, if she is unreasonable about it, then make your own decision.

LDLTR's are not built on insecurities they are more or less built on trust. I think that if you can't talk through with it that you should go with your gut action. I would.

LDR's are a very tough thing to have because you both got to make time and have the means of getting down to see each other.
 

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Re: keep her..

Originally posted by KillaPetehog
you can't start dumping every girl that starts drinking.
; )
But he can't try!!:crackup:


Hey guys is 4 beers a night a lot?
 
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