"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should I dump my LDR gf of about 7-8 months because of the fact that she started to drink. I don't mind hanging out with people who drink but I don't want a girlfriend who drinks, not because I'm insecure but because I don't see any point in it and by drinking she loses her rarity because she becomes like everyone else. In my opinion I think that people only drink so they can get loose and have fun (outer game), whereas an individual who is outgoing and naturally fun doesn't need alcohol to let loose and have fun (inner game). Should I get rid of her because of this trait. She even knows that I don't like it but she keeps doing it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nah, you should keep her. You can try to persuade her from drinking "like a sailor". Me, personally, I don't want a girl that's going to go around getting drunk. I would try to persuade her from doing it....you can be a bit forceful ( not too forceful though )
 

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It should be your decision if you want to keep her cause it´s your girlfriend.

Independent of this, it´s good that you don´t drink.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by syncmaster
if she's the same age as you , 16, then she's too young.
Eh, you're one of the old schoolers, aye? 16 is a very normal age to be an alcoholic now. ;) Even a 14 year old getting smashed will only raise one or two eyebrows. Kinda sad.

Oh, and blue... I would do whatever you feel is right. If you don't like her dinking, and are smart enough to know the cons of drinking, and are brave enough to dump dump her because you think you deserve better... then go for it. :)
 

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You shouldnt dump her....she is so fine!!!!!! oh and just becuase she is an acholoic that doesnt mean anything! ok i dont care if she drinks, she still sucks my ****
 

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" In my opinion "


Who gives about your opinion!
 

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jk bluelemond your the **** on this post!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Come on. It's OK to drink.

Also:

In my opinion I think that people only drink so they can get loose and have fun (outer game), whereas an individual who is outgoing and naturally fun doesn't need alcohol to let loose and have fun (inner game).
That's true, but if you mix naturally funny with some alcohol you can have even more fun. Now, I'm not saying you should go get drunk every night but it's okay to drunk from time to time, just like every other normal human being.
 

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i thought this thread would be

"i got smashed and couldn't crack a fat, am i a homo?"

its not that thread.

but you are a homo.

get her extra drunk, shove it up her ass, you'll like it more because you're gay, and she'll stop drinking so it doesn't happen again.
 

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Originally posted by quest
i thought this thread would be

"i got smashed and couldn't crack a fat, am i a homo?"

its not that thread.

but you are a homo.

get her extra drunk, shove it up her ass, you'll like it more because you're gay, and she'll stop drinking so it doesn't happen again.
:crackup:
 

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I don't like how people don't respond to posts seriously.

Well you can do one of two things. You can change your stance on drinking, or you can dump her. Speaking as a guy who said the same crap you're saying when he was 16, I say try to lighten up on the drinking thing. It's only going to get worse in college. And hopefully, you will someday be around people who drink not to get ripped and vomit everywhere, but who show you the positive side to drinking moderately.

Also, I don't know how this girl drinks. If I didn't drink and she got blasted like all the time and was passing out or I had to take care of her drunken ass ever, I'd dump her. Actually, I do drink and I still don't want a girl who gets blasted all the time. I don't want a girl who drinks much more than I'm willing to.

Would you be OK with it if she just didn't do it around you?

This is definitely a decision to be made based on a personal preference.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would go with talking to her about it, if she is unreasonable about it, then make your own decision.

LDLTR's are not built on insecurities they are more or less built on trust. I think that if you can't talk through with it that you should go with your gut action. I would.

LDR's are a very tough thing to have because you both got to make time and have the means of getting down to see each other.
 

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Re: keep her..

Originally posted by KillaPetehog
you can't start dumping every girl that starts drinking.
; )
But he can't try!!:crackup:


Hey guys is 4 beers a night a lot?
 
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