I got drunk at a party last night and drunk called a girl I have a crush on at school. 3 times, at 2am. I have almost every class with this girl. And the first one is tomorrow. Did this happen to anyone else? How awkward was it for you? I texted her today and said my bad for the crank calls.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
alcohol is bad.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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whenever i get drunk, i lose something... i also see about 30 outgoing texts the next day on my phone.
thecurtainfalls
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Exactly.Lexington said:
amoka
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Few weeks ago, I took a girl out and she kept on buying drinks after drinks, then after some more, I was completely GONE. My initial plan was to nail this girl that day but because of the sh!t, I could not even do anything. She had to drive my car back home, that was how bad things were. The following morning, she called to see if I as alright then she started saying she did not know how flirtatious I was. She said I flirted with every woman at the place. Alcohol can enhance your game and can mess it up also. Drink in moderation.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Scar Tissue
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I remember my first beer...
But in all seriousness you need to just apologize to her and then leave it be.
"Hey sorry Jessica, I was really drunk the other night (laugh), you know how it is"
Its not a big deal.
Next you need to learn how to drink within reason. Your not 25 years old.
But in all seriousness you need to just apologize to her and then leave it be.
"Hey sorry Jessica, I was really drunk the other night (laugh), you know how it is"
Its not a big deal.
Next you need to learn how to drink within reason. Your not 25 years old.