"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Alas! She is now married...

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I have had this serious onetis for a girl for a long time (it has been almost a year and a half since we last saw each other and I still can't forget her). I still get some news of her every now and then. I just found out that she got married...

So sad... :(

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by davelmn2003
I have had this serious onetis for a girl for a long time (it has been almost a year and a half since we last saw each other and I still can't forget her). I still get some news of her every now and then. I just found out that she got married...

So sad... :(

Thanks for listening...
Make her the last. :)
 

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I got several oneitis but not serious ones where I obsess that she's the one. I just think of them and wish they could be mines but they're taken. I shrug it off, cause I want to concentrate on a girl that actually wants a man, me.
 

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Thanks for that link. It was very apt and moving.

I wish "She" was mine. After learning of the news, I just turned off the light, lit a candle, and drank some whisky while I listened to some slow music. If she only knew the depth of my feelings for her...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tell her.
 

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Your kidding right?

Man I feel like I'm back in Grade Six. I liked this girl, she was two years older then me. She knew I liked her but we were always "just friends". I kept after her like a chicken on heat.

Live'n'learn.
 

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What is with all these oneitis posts popping up recently. To the poster of this thread, you've been a visitor of this website since 2003, why are you still experiancing oneitis? Have you been practicing anything that you've read?

No don't tell the broad how you feel, you've had the chance to do that in the past and you didn't do it. Now she's married and is starting a family, don't wreck that for her. You've made a mistake in not making a move on her, don't make the mistake again with other girls. Never hesistate when it comes to personal happyness.

Right now you feel like you've hit rock bottom. GOOD! This will only make you stronger in the longrun. Put away the booze, turn off that slow music, and THINK. Think of all the things that you thought of everytime you hesistated to hook up with this broad. Think of every mistake you made, write them down, memorize them, and NEVER do them again.

Learn from this sh!t, be a man, move on, date other women, and live your OWN life to its fullest. Fvck the past, you got tommorow to worry about.
 

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yup.. its over... she's married... don't spoil her newfound happiness... its happened to me before. i waited too long to make my move and she got attached to some other guy. its not so bad :) i'm certain you'll meet someone better for you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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don't worry bro, I went through the exact same thing a few months ago - it demolished me for a day, lingered for a week, and then gradually went away.

In a way it's a supergood thing because it stops you from holding on to something you obviously were never going to do anything about and was probably holding you back the whole time.

You just gotta get back into the game and prove to yourself that you're BALLER. Just get out there and meet hot chicks and hook up with the cool ones and I gaurantee you there will be a moment in the near future where you suddenly realize you have a lot more control over your love life than you ever thought...
 
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