"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Aim high!

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Actually, here's another old adage:

Women want to marry men who will give them the lifestyle to which they would like to become accustomed.

Women struggle all of their lives to be prettier than the next girl in order to have the hottest guy or richest guy (or both, with the latter becoming more important as women grow older). Men very rarely want to "marry up," except when it comes to attractiveness. Men simply want to be the envy of other men, not just for their career successes or wealth, but also for the attractiveness of their wives. This is especially the case with men who couldn't date attractive women when they were younger because they lacked good looks, money or both.

There are, of course, exceptions, such as men who want to marry the boss' daughter in order to take over his company eventually, or a powerful senator or congressman's daughter because they want to go into politics (e.g., former Senator Charles Robb of Virginia married former President Lyndon Johnson's daughter).

As Pook pointed out, however, if you want to "aim high" for a woman that is currently out of your league, you need to work hard at those things in your life that will put you in her league (or even beyond -- remember, women want to "marry up").

So you want to get laid by hot women? Get off your a$$, turn off the computer, and get started!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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With all the ugly guys or average I see with beautiful women why not aim high? Mind you don't make two years trying to date Shakira! Although everything is possible in life.

Pook who is this Redford? Is he a column writer or a normal guy?
 

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Originally posted by Don the Legend
Nice post Pook!


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Hey Gip,

I haven't talked to you lately. What's up?

Legend

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"As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for you only get to play one round."... Ben Hogan

"The key to happiness in your life is "Your Life",... Don the Legend
You sound like you dont belive in a
life after death.I woud say that if it
didnt exist there woud be no point
overcoming your fleshly desiers
But when you overcome them
with a power of will of your spirit
phisical death has no dominion over you animore.This rule apllyes to every
thing in life.And Jesus is there to help us.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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giartodil, first of all, I'm glad you bumped this post. This is another Pook classic that I had missed.

Second, you're 19 bro, you should put some effort into learning how to spell.

No offense.
 

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I think what's also important is the difference between society scale and personal scale of hotness. I know lots of woman that socity would put at HB9-10 but for the most part they do nothing to me. Yet there is a number of society HB7-8s that i do any day only beace they turn me on way more than those HB9-10s.
 

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ALAS!!! Pook speaketh gospel!!

Thanks Pook. This is just what I needed. Just what a f****** needed.
 

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This is something that I didn't see in the DJ bible while I was reading. Did I miss it? Anyhow, good work Pook.

Im sure we could take many of Pook's posts and compile the "book of Pook" within the DJ bible.
 

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You know this is so weird, I just realized that I actually read that Bryan Redford article years ago and back then I half-heartedly agreed with him with that stupid car comparison. So glad my mindset has changed so much since then.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Pook is Greek for DJ steroids.
 

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Great and true post. I've noticed that as I get better at life, girls that I used to long for now lose their appeal. Ah, how unfortunate would it have been to settle with one of them when I still didn't know better.
 

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I love this post :) Thank you Pook!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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life is too short and the road is too long to drive anything other than a mercedes-benz. :)

lol. it's their ad line.

in any case i think there are defineately such things as leagues but thats not to say that you can't move up a league with self-improvement.
 
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