"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ah the breakup... wait... we weren't dating.

Eccentric

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About 2 months ago I started talking to an old friend who added me on Facebook. As friends, we had lots of fluff talk. But I also told her about work, my goals (mainly starting a family) etc. A few weeks went by and I was off on my vacation to Disney. She had moved to Florida years ago. So she stayed with me and my friends for a few days, and we ended up having sex.

The fluff talk became a little more personal. She told me that she's planning on moving home. She asked if "this" could work out between us. I was like yeah sure, (insert BS here). A few weeks ago she mentioned that she's coming home for 3 days to search for places and jobs, she can stay with friends but would rather stay with me. Thinking score, I said sure you can stay a few days.

Fast forward.

Tonight she calls me drunk. But before that she texted me about dancing. I told her I hate it. So when she calls she's like so what if we work out, and get married, you wouldn't dance? HIT THE F'N BRAKES!

The convo shifted to "so if you still don't feel the same way, you used me" speech. Well what the hell did you expect. I haven't seen you in 10 years, we meet up and you stay for 2 days, and we have sex. Now a month has gone by, and you expect me to feel like "oh yey! my girlfriend is coming home for 3 days." At this point it also hit me, why on earth did I agree to let her stay here? Oh yeah, sex... well not anymore.

That's not to mention she told me other guys have been hitting on her, but she turns them down, because we MIGHT work out if and when she can move back home.

I got the whole I'm not a slut speech, I gave myself to you because I liked you. If I thought you were just another player blah blah blah. I told her what happened in Florida stays in Florida. She called me an *******, a piece of ****, wished nothing but bad things on me. I was like awesome I look forward to my series of unfortunate events and hung up.

You're not going to disrespect me. She tried the whole pity thing, but I didn't take the bait. Face it, you were a vacation fling. Don't get upset that because you're moving home that the fling wont turn LTR.

The point of this? Keep those plates spinning, and watch out for the headcases. Feels like dirt off the shoulder though, then again, it wasn't really dirty. Glad this happened now over the phone rather than her bringing up a topic like she did after sex. Yikes! could have got ugly.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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keep those sharp objects away or hidden please...
 

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Not sure why you felt you had to tell her you think it could work. Any chick will start trippin if they see they got played.
 

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Well like your signature, I told her what she wanted to hear. I could have used better judgment though and said something like "we'll cross that road when we get there" knowing it would never happen.

She sent me a text at 6 am "What if I don't want to give up?" oh boy... lol. I wanted to respond with something witty, but experience has told me not even to bother. :nono:
 

slickaz

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partly your fault, partly hers for assuming.

but she sounds like a good chic thats looking to settle down.
so its a call you're gonna have to make.

however, go easy on letting her down, coz the next dude that dates her might catch the sh!tstorm from you lol..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Eccentric said:
Well like your signature, I told her what she wanted to hear. I could have used better judgment though and said something like "we'll cross that road when we get there" knowing it would never happen.

OK you got me lmao.
 
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