"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Agressiveness
- Thread starter toddC
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If you think it will offend her, do it. Within reason of course. Make sexual jokes about her. For example, I was playing monopoly with a mixed group and one of the my friends kept landing on one of the girl's properties and kept having to pay her. He said something along the lines of her being a slut because he kept paying her.
Basically, don't be afraid to say something slightly offensive, but not directly making fun of one of the sensitive things to girls(weight, breast size, etc.). If you use the right tone of voice, she will probably find it funny or notice that you don't really give a f**k what other people think.
Basically, don't be afraid to say something slightly offensive, but not directly making fun of one of the sensitive things to girls(weight, breast size, etc.). If you use the right tone of voice, she will probably find it funny or notice that you don't really give a f**k what other people think.
bob88
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I think it also depends on the girl and how long you've known her. If you've known her for too long and start to become agressive out of nowhere she might get weirded out dude. I think its like the whole kino thing, if you want to be agressive with a girl you have to start since the very beggining or she might get weirded out and be like "whats going on he never did this before" and such.
nono, let me explain the situation a little more so you guys can give me alil more help here. On friday night, I got with this chick. Then on saturday she called me asking to hang again. So I got her (and I HATE BEING SOBER when my friends are all drunk). So anyways I smoked a big joint before I went to get her and I was retarted lol. Anyways the whole night I was kinda shying away from her and she was kinda getting frusturated like obviously i was holding her some points in the night but not the majority of the night. so one of my best friends was talking to her and she waslike he has to be more agressive. so like i don't know what she means cause obviously i'm not makin out wiht her in front of 100 people when were not even going out so I don't know what she meant.
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man straight up.....it was the weed. im not even kidding you. i used to be the biggest stoner, bunning like 4-5 times a day. and im telling you now it DESTROYS your ego. it makes you shy and lsot for words. smoking a joint with some friends is cool, but not when your tryin to score with some chick, cuz thats exactly what happend to me. i was a big stoner and i could never think of what to ay to this chick and she was telling my buddy that i wasnt being agressive or forward enough so it looked like i wasnt interested. then i discovered this site, and lo and behold, i lost my virginity to a sexy 9, and ive been with her for nine months. when your tryin to score with a chick dont be stoned out of your mind, be drunk or sober.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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man straight up.....it was the weed. im not even kidding you. i used to be the biggest stoner, bunning like 4-5 times a day. and im telling you now it DESTROYS your ego. it makes you shy and lsot for words. smoking a joint with some friends is cool, but not when your tryin to score with some chick, cuz thats exactly what happend to me. i was a big stoner and i could never think of what to ay to this chick and she was telling my buddy that i wasnt being agressive or forward enough so it looked like i wasnt interested. then i discovered this site, and lo and behold, i lost my virginity to a sexy 9, and ive been with her for nine months. when your tryin to score with a chick dont be stoned out of your mind, be drunk or sober.
I really really can't believe you just said taht...LITERALLY 10 minutes after i woke up this morning I was like (to myself) dude it was the fkin WEED and i vowed NEVER AGAIN to smoke while i'm around or goign to eb around girls. haha that just made me so happy to know that it wasn't jsut me hahaOriginally posted by SnowBlind77
man straight up.....it was the weed. im not even kidding you. i used to be the biggest stoner, bunning like 4-5 times a day. and im telling you now it DESTROYS your ego. it makes you shy and lsot for words. smoking a joint with some friends is cool, but not when your tryin to score with some chick, cuz thats exactly what happend to me. i was a big stoner and i could never think of what to ay to this chick and she was telling my buddy that i wasnt being agressive or forward enough so it looked like i wasnt interested. then i discovered this site, and lo and behold, i lost my virginity to a sexy 9, and ive been with her for nine months. when your tryin to score with a chick dont be stoned out of your mind, be drunk or sober.
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This post provides why you aren't (rightly viewed as) aggressive.Originally posted by toddC
nono, let me explain the situation a little more so you guys can give me alil more help here. On friday night, I got with this chick. Then on saturday she called me asking to hang again. So I got her (and I HATE BEING SOBER when my friends are all drunk). So anyways I smoked a big joint before I went to get her and I was retarted lol. Anyways the whole night I was kinda shying away from her and she was kinda getting frusturated like obviously i was holding her some points in the night but not the majority of the night. so one of my best friends was talking to her and she waslike he has to be more agressive. so like i don't know what she means cause obviously i'm not makin out wiht her in front of 100 people when were not even going out so I don't know what she meant.
Firstly, you are a follower; a lemming; a sheep. If you can't tolerate being apart from the crowd - which you obviously can't - then you can ACT drunk as it is fairly easy.
Secondly, you say "so" over and over and over...this is boring and makes you look incoherent as you exhibit that you don't possess the vocabulary to create an interesting conversation hence, why you resort to using the same words.
Thirdly, you say "kinda" a lot too. Now, IMHO, this is a girly word but even if it weren't, it merely demonstrates that you are unsure of yourself which is quite possibly the LEAST aggressive thing you can do.
In conclusion: use an interesting array of language to captivate and compel and marinate this in a sauce of fluid speech. Voila!