Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I really really can't believe you just said taht...LITERALLY 10 minutes after i woke up this morning I was like (to myself) dude it was the fkin WEED and i vowed NEVER AGAIN to smoke while i'm around or goign to eb around girls. haha that just made me so happy to know that it wasn't jsut me hahaOriginally posted by SnowBlind77
man straight up.....it was the weed. im not even kidding you. i used to be the biggest stoner, bunning like 4-5 times a day. and im telling you now it DESTROYS your ego. it makes you shy and lsot for words. smoking a joint with some friends is cool, but not when your tryin to score with some chick, cuz thats exactly what happend to me. i was a big stoner and i could never think of what to ay to this chick and she was telling my buddy that i wasnt being agressive or forward enough so it looked like i wasnt interested. then i discovered this site, and lo and behold, i lost my virginity to a sexy 9, and ive been with her for nine months. when your tryin to score with a chick dont be stoned out of your mind, be drunk or sober.
This post provides why you aren't (rightly viewed as) aggressive.Originally posted by toddC
nono, let me explain the situation a little more so you guys can give me alil more help here. On friday night, I got with this chick. Then on saturday she called me asking to hang again. So I got her (and I HATE BEING SOBER when my friends are all drunk). So anyways I smoked a big joint before I went to get her and I was retarted lol. Anyways the whole night I was kinda shying away from her and she was kinda getting frusturated like obviously i was holding her some points in the night but not the majority of the night. so one of my best friends was talking to her and she waslike he has to be more agressive. so like i don't know what she means cause obviously i'm not makin out wiht her in front of 100 people when were not even going out so I don't know what she meant.