"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Age you lost your virginity?

MM92

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Now everybody be honest, lying to people about something like this on the internet is not cool. At what age did you all lose your virginity? I lost mine at 15 with a girlfriend I had been with a few months, who was also a virgin.

I ask this because I have seen many people on here past and present mention being a virgin well into their 20's. How does this happen? I'm not saying i'm better than anybody because of this but I just don't see how it's possible to still be a virgin at such an age unless you was waiting until marriage etc
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I was 16 and thought that was bad. I think if you're 18 and haven't been laid yet you need to take a good look at yourself in the mirror. If nothing is wrong there then think about how you are acting towards women. Something would be off
 

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23. I was always insecure. Now I'm getting laid atleast 3 times a month.
 

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17 or 18. I really can't remember. But I was kind of a late bloomer compared to my friends.
 

MM92

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Jair213 said:
23. I was always insecure. Now I'm getting laid atleast 3 times a month.
At least you're making up for it now :rockon:

I was the youngest of my friends at 15 but all of my friends had lost it by the age of 18, even the ones that were rather shy with females at first. I did always have a fear of dying a virgin when I was 13/14, I think it started when I watched the 40 year old virgin haha
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Some form of social anxiety would be the reason (ranging from standard introversion to full bloom social anxiety disorder).

I'd say things have 'gone wrong' if you haven't lost your virginity by your first or second year of university (that would be 18-19, so the cutoff would be your 20th birthday). After that point, alarm bells should go off (but not before then) and you should definitely be taking steps to correct the situation ASAP.

This site attracts mainly two kinds of people: those who are hopeless with women because they have some form of social anxiety and are looking to correct it, and those who have always been outgoing party animals who consider themselves experts with women and are just looking for tips to fine-tune their game. It's a bimodal distribution. So it's expected that there are a lot of late-bloomers here.
 
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