"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Age-gap rejection or am I overthinking it?
- Thread starter redcouch
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Maybe re-engage and offer an alternative to drinks. Build up some more rapport and then try to seduce her again. She might reconsider once she knows you a little better. Maybe this chick has had bad experiences with older guys trying to get her drunk.
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It might be all three also. That's the beauty of that power game, she basically can't lose because she can always change her mind later.
It's not the age gap, I think. Women showing interest and then having opinions about an age gap is usually a sh!t test.
What I think is the simplest explanation is this: she might have realized afterward that she was too proactive for 'standard' male/female interaction, so she's backpedaling a bit (by grabbing something random like your age gap) to see if you are willing to put in some effort just like her (by passing her sh!t test, of course) and balancing this out and be on a level playing field again. She might think that she signaled that she is an easy lay.
If you haven't by now, you might want to tease her with this. Tell her jokingly that she acted like a horny man. Flip that script and tease. Tell her that you're not an easy lay, and that she has to take you out to a fancy expensive restaurant and that you expect her to ask you to marry her within one year. That you want flowers. That she better be handy, because the plumbing in your new house has to be done.
I'm just making stuff up here, of course, but you get the gist. At least, try to refuse the urge to become the proactive man in this case... you're failing her sh!t test the moment you start proposing plans for a date. The times that women were so proactive with me, I thought I was already in, that probably was noticeable in my communication, and most of them lost interest.