Age Difference

[phil2015]

Hi guys

Just a quick one, I was in my local emergency doctors yesterday and the receptionist asked me for my number.

I've since tested briefly and arranged drinks for this Thursday night. Trouble is, she is 21 and I'm 31 and am not used to dealing with such an age gap.

She's said it isn't a problem for her as she likes an older, more mature type of Man. Yet I'm wondering what is the best way to play this?
And is an age difference like this actually a turn on for a 21 year old?

Greatful for all advice in advance,

Regards

P

 

[Tictac]

You 'play' it by asking her out. She's already green lighted you for age.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

It's not a problem at all.

How to play it? Confident and competent.

-Augustus-

 

[marmel75]

Hi guys

Just a quick one, I was in my local emergency doctors yesterday and the receptionist asked me for my number.

I've since tested briefly and arranged drinks for this Thursday night. Trouble is, she is 21 and I'm 31 and am not used to dealing with such an age gap.

She's said it isn't a problem for her as she likes an older, more mature type of Man. Yet I'm wondering what is the best way to play this?
And is an age difference like this actually a turn on for a 21 year old?

Greatful for all advice in advance,

Regards

P

Yes, she is likely expecting you to be able to teach her things sexually. Hopefully you are up to the challenge. Escalate hard, do not play around, be timid, etc.

She wants to fvck.

She probably fantasizes about an older more experienced man seducing her. Help her to live out her fantasy.

 

[logicallefty]

Ask her out reasonably soon she is obviously interested. Just do not put your heart in it and expect anything long term. Consider her a pack of beer you are drinking for one night at at time. Just enjoy it at the time and have fun.

 

[Alvafe]

why you guys care so much for age gaps? go for it, have sex with her, if things don't go well end it and move on

 

[ubercat]

10 years is nothing I've had multiple live in LTRs with woman who are 15 years younger. Just don't expect anything permanent with a girl who is 21 she's going to change too much as a person over the next few years. And don't make the mistake of trying to hang out with her young friends. Date her on your terms.

 

[spikeanut]

Take heed and do not forget this: age is meaningless to women. Whereas men are attracted to youth and beauty, women are not. Looks are merely one facet of attraction for women; a man's strength, ability to provide & protect, and confidence weigh just the same if not more. With this in mind, there is a direct correlation that a man's value increases as he ages; older men are viewed as having their lives together; able to better provide and protect; well traveled; confident, etc. Therefore, the right play in your case is to be that older man she is seeking. One who is sure of himself, confident, experienced. Do not pedestalize her youth or her beauty. As others have stated, treat this as it is, something quick and fun. Nothing more.

 

[guru1000]

10 years, ha. I don't remember dating a girl in a while with less than a 10-year age gap.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

10 years is nothing I've had multiple live in LTRs with woman who are 15 years younger. Just don't expect anything permanent with a girl who is 21 she's going to change too much as a person over the next few years. And don't make the mistake of trying to hang out with her young friends. Date her on your terms.

How old are you, and do you have a ruleset that keeps dating at this age gap out of trouble for the most part? I agree don't try to hang with her friends.

I'm a 44-45 years old man, who would go down to 30-35. I could do 25-29 but it would be non committed bangs only.

 

[wifehunter]

I'm not sure why people waste time discussing age. As long as she's over 18, you're good.

 

[Trump]

Hi guys

Just a quick one, I was in my local emergency doctors yesterday and the receptionist asked me for my number.

I've since tested briefly and arranged drinks for this Thursday night. Trouble is, she is 21 and I'm 31 and am not used to dealing with such an age gap.

She's said it isn't a problem for her as she likes an older, more mature type of Man. Yet I'm wondering what is the best way to play this?
And is an age difference like this actually a turn on for a 21 year old?

Greatful for all advice in advance,

Regards

P

Bro she asks you for your number, you give it without any hesitation. She specifically tells you she likes older mature men. You went out of your way to talk to her, set up a date and time to meet her and have a drink with her. And THEN you come ask us what is the best way to play it and if the age difference is a turn on?

If you were wondering if the age difference is a turn on, why did you her your number when she asked? Why didn't you wait, ask us, and then go back and give her your number depending on the advice given?

I get the feeling you know exactly what to do and it's a show off thread. Brutal.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

So SHE asked YOU for your number and then told you she wants an older, more mature type of man? And instantly set up a date for this week?

Please update this thread Friday morning after you've stayed up all night banging the hell out of her. No doubt she's telling her friends right now that she has a date with "this really mature, older guy" lined up this week.

 

[MrWood]

I typically date 10-15 years younger, why do you care?

 

[dude99]

Hi guys

Just a quick one, I was in my local emergency doctors yesterday and the receptionist asked me for my number.

I've since tested briefly and arranged drinks for this Thursday night. Trouble is, she is 21 and I'm 31 and am not used to dealing with such an age gap.

She's said it isn't a problem for her as she likes an older, more mature type of Man. Yet I'm wondering what is the best way to play this?
And is an age difference like this actually a turn on for a 21 year old?

Greatful for all advice in advance,

Regards

P

I live by the rule never commit to a girl under the age of 25. They will change their mind like the wind. They will love you one day hate you the next. Demand a ring on monday want too be the party girl who isn't tied down Wednesday. Etc. Etc. Etc.

Treat this one as a plate until she proves she is different.

 

[bigneil]

When you're 31 and she's 21, that's one of the best combinations possible. Remember though, any girls 27 or older will say you are a shameless, evil pervert, because that's when they decide that they like guys their age.

 

[Venom Alfa]

When I was 32 years old I dated a young chick that was 23. Its natural that women in that age prefer older men.
The men around their age are still boys!

Go for it! Don't forget to have fun and dont overthink this age thing.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Go easier on the ****y funny and more on the rapport building. There is a great article on rationale male - search epiphany phase.

 

[phil2015]

Ok well I've got her coming to my house for steaks tomorrow so am going in with the mindset that this is a good sign.

Cheers to the advice, I will update how it goes