"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
After you got the connection is it ok to say: I wanna make love to you!
- Thread starter kingman
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Insurreto
Don Juan
I'm not THAT direct, but I am very direct in opening. I tell girls I think they're ****ing hot and that's the reason I want to speak to them. But I wait with the so called SoI's (Statements of Intent: My intentions are to have sex
).But, I do tell girls I think they are amazingly hot. I even accuse them, almost bully them, for making me so God damn horny! But, to tone down the tension a bit (it's easy to come on to strong, she might feel as if she can chose wether to have sex with me or not. As if she has all the power of the interaction), I do two things:
1. I say it VERY playfully and funny, but she knows I'm honest. (I think everybody gets this, but for those that doesn't it's good to point this out)
2. I use disqualifiers. I am VERY picky when it comes to girls, and I play out on this. If a girl smokes, doesn't dance, doesn't say what she thinks etc. I tell her: It's too bad you smoke/don't dance/whatever, otherwise you'd be soooo mine baby! But now you can't have me *Smile like a retard*
If I explain badly please tell me to elaborate, I'm Swedish so sometimes translations are a little off
Much love,
- Insurreto
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