question. do any of you find that after youve just banged a woman that you lose a HUGE amount of interest in her? im not talking long term loss of interest, just for a short period of time after the act. I typically find myself thinking 'man, i wish i could just go play a video game or work out' ie. have some ME time. but after about an hour or so i find my interest starts to return a bit.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Vulpine
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I can't vote.
There is a huge variable missing from the equation:
How was the sex?
There is a huge variable missing from the equation:
How was the sex?
bigjohnson
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I'm with Vulpine on this, but assuming sex was good then really nothing has changed for better or worse. If she puts out reliably and is good ... isn't that the goal?
Vulpine
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Ok, I voted, but I feel the need to explain.
I think it's hard wired in men's brains to yearn for "I'm done. Get out." but, training and society has us have to stick around and "cuddle".
I think it's the resentment of that expectation to "cuddle" that drives the IL drop. Sticking around afterwards makes sex into a chore: like doing the dishes after a meal.
On a side note: In our "fast food nation", the same 'chore' aspect is probably why FB's and ONS's are so ever increasingly popular: no fuss, no muss, and clean up is a breeze!
I think it's hard wired in men's brains to yearn for "I'm done. Get out." but, training and society has us have to stick around and "cuddle".
I think it's the resentment of that expectation to "cuddle" that drives the IL drop. Sticking around afterwards makes sex into a chore: like doing the dishes after a meal.
On a side note: In our "fast food nation", the same 'chore' aspect is probably why FB's and ONS's are so ever increasingly popular: no fuss, no muss, and clean up is a breeze!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Rollo Tomassi
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it all depends on the girl. Sex is good, she looks good, the IL is high, her sexual appetite is high, she's imaginative in bed, she can string more than 3 coherent thoughts together and it's mutually understood I control the frame; then my interest goes up. In fact i married that girl. But I've been in situations that were less than ideal and the performance was mediocre so I lost interest.
RedPill
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If there is a Hell, or some other form of eternal damnation, for me it would involve being stuck in bed with some chick I just banged who wasn't all that impressive, who is clinging to me and asleep, and meanwhile my allergies to her cat are flaring up, I'm wide awake, don't have a car to leave, and that 'just banged her and want to pick up a hamburger and go home' itch won't go away.
I voted for lose interest right after.
I voted for lose interest right after.
Hmmmm...for me it's varying degrees of "I wanna get the fukk out of here!"
On one end of the spectrum I just wanna sleep and she gets pushed to the other side of the bed.
On the other end I have been known to immediately get up out of bed and make some kind of lame excuse why I have to leave. Those were the times where I felt like an animal with it's leg caught in a trap. Do you sit there and wait to get a bullet in the head, or do you take the lesser of two evils and chew off your own leg so you can get away? A couple of times I honestly felt like if I stayed I would have gotten a bullet (figuratively) if I wouldn't have gotten out of there FAST.
I suppose there have been a few times where I enjoyed a little closeness, but for the most part I would rather her be in the next room once I'm done.
On one end of the spectrum I just wanna sleep and she gets pushed to the other side of the bed.
On the other end I have been known to immediately get up out of bed and make some kind of lame excuse why I have to leave. Those were the times where I felt like an animal with it's leg caught in a trap. Do you sit there and wait to get a bullet in the head, or do you take the lesser of two evils and chew off your own leg so you can get away? A couple of times I honestly felt like if I stayed I would have gotten a bullet (figuratively) if I wouldn't have gotten out of there FAST.
I suppose there have been a few times where I enjoyed a little closeness, but for the most part I would rather her be in the next room once I'm done.
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Post coital happiness depends on a few things; Whether or not she brings me cafe' au lait, peanut butter pie and a lit cigar.
If so, IL stays high. If no, IL goes straight to hell and all she sees are my ass and elbows.
Mrs. K has managed to keep my IL high thus far . . .
If so, IL stays high. If no, IL goes straight to hell and all she sees are my ass and elbows.
Mrs. K has managed to keep my IL high thus far . . .
bigjohnson
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Funny, I always lay there and wonder "How can I get her to suck my d_ck a little more?", but each to his own I guess.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Sir Drinksalot
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When I'm hungry, my IL in a hamburger is higher than after I eat it. But inevitably I'll get hungry again soon. :woo:
I can't imagine there's an honest man who likes hearing them babble after he's shot his load.
I can't imagine there's an honest man who likes hearing them babble after he's shot his load.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
It could go any way from way up to way down. So I voted "about the same," though "varies" would be more like it.