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Why did u have to say they were sexy snakes lol
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
After two weeks of sex, she does not return my calls
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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You could have been a rebound, and that ex started fvckkng her again
That's what I thought for a long time too, but like I said earlier, some will withdraw because of fear. The one I was talking about, was falling hard and I think she felt she was losing control. Some people give up when they see that there is no way they will have total control.JoeMarron said:
In the end, who gives a fvck why or how? If she's not contacting you anymore, so be it.
I always say in my mind "Her loss..." and do what I was doing before.
+1 GotED
hahaGotED? said:
This is just an agree to disagree situation, and I may very well be too cynical for my own good. I just have an easier time believing that us men will come up with the most creative excuses for a woman's behaviour than a woman leaving you because she... wuvs you too much?El Suave said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
TheCWord said:
It's not making excuses for them. It's simply that they don't even know why they do most of the sh!t they do and we are trying to make sense of it with logic. Doesn't matter if she left out of fear or if there's another guy in the picture. When she comes back, they always do, deal with her then according to what you want out of it at that moment.