"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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After this event, how should I play it...

Levler

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I'm gonna be as brief as possible. I'm a freshman at college and yesterday we had this big party for all the new freshmens. In our class there's a girl I find kind of sexy (HB7), and when she and our class stood around a table I pulled over and tried to kiss her, but she didn't kiss me back so I started kissing her on the neck maybe 2-3 times. She said "I'm not gonna kiss with you" all the time with a straight face and she didn't look at me, just straight forward.

Anyway, afterwards she was still there and she didn't seemed to be scared. People from class was more shocked than her, haha. I'm gonna meet her again in a couple of days, how should I play it?

Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Diaforetikos

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I'm kinda lost. Are you asking us how to get her or asking how to avoid an awkward situation.

In either case, I don't have enough information to actually give you sound advice.

Moar detales pwees!
 

Levler

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Diaforetikos said:
I'm kinda lost. Are you asking us how to get her or asking how to avoid an awkward situation.

In either case, I don't have enough information to actually give you sound advice.

Moar detales pwees!
The awkard situation isn't gonna come up, at least not for me - I just followed my impulse. :) But the thing is, yesterday was our last night as a class together, so I wasn't afraid to try hard. Now she definitely know I like her, but what do you guys she think after her reaction - i.e didn't get freaked out by my move on her? And yes, I would like some advice on how to get her, because now there's some opportunity for us to have som alone-time.
 

search1ng

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thought she didn't want you?

why the fck are you even seeing her?

....

She didn't react probably meant she thought you were a creep.

... i still don't understand why you're seeing her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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