after the cut off, she's back -> regaining power

[joker79]

guys what's up. Quick advice for me: she's seems to be back, after being pushy and needy I cut off everything and acted smooth and disinterested. Result: last week we kissed again but I didn't push for any other date, meeting, whatever. I'm currently not pushing for anything and not contacting her, just enjoying my life. I don't want to make the same mistake twice so I let her play the game with her timing. I see a risk not to go anywhere but I showed already what I want so she's aware. I'm taking it easy and mainly wait for her moves. REally struggling with my (AFC) nature. Good strategy?

 

[The Gambler]

Looks like the power may have shifted to you now. If so, congratulations.

The one problem I see is that she is who she is.... You may be able to control her for a while and reset the frame to be more the way you want it to be, but this will probably require constant effort on your part. It might just be better to start over with a different woman whose personality is more compatible with yours.

 

[Cremasta]

I don't want to make the same mistake twice so I let her play the game with her timing.

All good, but this is the chink in your armor. Don't always be available according to her timing. Make sure you say 'no' every now and then.
If she gets pushy and asks what you're doing, just say "I've got something else lined up" and stonewall her if she tries to dig further. You don't owe her any explanations about what you do with your time.

 

[joker79]

Guys will let her go, no patience anymore. We went to a party together and she was with me, hugging and showing high IL. Our colleagues noticed that but she didn't care, just me (really good sign). Then we kissed again but no way to take her in my flat, she resists but don't know why. Then push and pull, some nice txts then she disappeared, no answer to some rare txt I send (don't like texting). She's playing games, there's someone else, she's busy, don't know. I'm not getting what I want and if I push, she backs off. Lose-lose situation.

 

[backbreaker]

you need to go to the DJ bible and read the entire anti dump section for a month straight. read it and read it again and again and again and again.

the anti dump machine is not supposed to make every girl you meet want to **** you. what it will do guranteed, is ensure that every girl you deal with, is actually interested in ****ing you. this one isn't. at least now she isn't.