"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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After sex talk.

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"Why is it that after the lights go out, that's when the weirdest things come out of her mouth?" - Adam Ferrara.

Ok, so it's time we go sleep, as I have to get home early the next day... and she starts pillow talkin. So she started saying how much she loves me... and how I've got all these good qualities.

I'm so manly, positive, handsome, strong, energetic, romantic, passionate, kind, NICE... bla bla bla.

She called me nice. And from there on, she proceeded to name AFC qualities. Well, after e few more adjectives I told her to sleep, while I went out for a cigarette.

Actually, I went out to hyperventilate. (And then smoke)...

... this can't be good, right? I'm probably being a paraniod ass again... but yeesh. I havn't been called "nice" in a long time now. :-/
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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dude, you are reading too much into it. She obviously really likes you, and wanted you to know it. Maybe she didn't know that the word "nice" will make you hyperventilate!

stop being so parenoid! she obviously cares about you and wants you to KNOW that she does!
 
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Seriouslly.....chill out man! God....its amazing the extremes some people take this ****. Being a nice guy doesnt make you an AFC. Being nice and letting a girl walk all over you so she doesnt get her feet dirty is an AFC.

You are so scared of being called an AFC its disturbing. This girl really likes you. Just accept her compliments. If its always after sex you must be good in bed. Take these as compliments and a confidence boost. Not to get all worked up on.
 
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dudes here are right

as i've seen here numerous of times on this forum: don't mind what a girl says, mind how she acts: she's obviously into you
 
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:)

Cool mates, just what I needed to hear. I'm gonna call her now and trash talk someone... just coz I'm in a good mood. Man, she'll love it.

Ta
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I once had sex with a girl and immediately after she climaxed she said "you can stop now" then said "I don't want anything serious" then put on her dressing gown and went to talk to her housemates. So think yourself lucky! :)

Actually, I get the same kind of pillow talk as you from my girlfriend. This site does dramatise the negativity of being nice, but the only time it's negative is if it's preceded by "too" or followed by "but".

I.e.
"You're too nice" = I don't see you sexually.
"You're nice, but..." = you're a nice person, but I'm not attracted to you.
"You're handsome, smart, strong and nice etc" = I'm sexually and emotionally attracted to you.
 
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Jariel said:
This site does dramatise the negativity of being nice, but the only time it's negative is if it's preceded by "too" or followed by "but".
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Exactly
 
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