"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Why is it that after the lights go out, that's when the weirdest things come out of her mouth?" - Adam Ferrara.

Ok, so it's time we go sleep, as I have to get home early the next day... and she starts pillow talkin. So she started saying how much she loves me... and how I've got all these good qualities.

I'm so manly, positive, handsome, strong, energetic, romantic, passionate, kind, NICE... bla bla bla.

She called me nice. And from there on, she proceeded to name AFC qualities. Well, after e few more adjectives I told her to sleep, while I went out for a cigarette.

Actually, I went out to hyperventilate. (And then smoke)...

... this can't be good, right? I'm probably being a paraniod ass again... but yeesh. I havn't been called "nice" in a long time now. :-/
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dude, you are reading too much into it. She obviously really likes you, and wanted you to know it. Maybe she didn't know that the word "nice" will make you hyperventilate!

stop being so parenoid! she obviously cares about you and wants you to KNOW that she does!
 
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Seriouslly.....chill out man! God....its amazing the extremes some people take this ****. Being a nice guy doesnt make you an AFC. Being nice and letting a girl walk all over you so she doesnt get her feet dirty is an AFC.

You are so scared of being called an AFC its disturbing. This girl really likes you. Just accept her compliments. If its always after sex you must be good in bed. Take these as compliments and a confidence boost. Not to get all worked up on.
 
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dudes here are right

as i've seen here numerous of times on this forum: don't mind what a girl says, mind how she acts: she's obviously into you
 
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:)

Cool mates, just what I needed to hear. I'm gonna call her now and trash talk someone... just coz I'm in a good mood. Man, she'll love it.

Ta
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I once had sex with a girl and immediately after she climaxed she said "you can stop now" then said "I don't want anything serious" then put on her dressing gown and went to talk to her housemates. So think yourself lucky! :)

Actually, I get the same kind of pillow talk as you from my girlfriend. This site does dramatise the negativity of being nice, but the only time it's negative is if it's preceded by "too" or followed by "but".

I.e.
"You're too nice" = I don't see you sexually.
"You're nice, but..." = you're a nice person, but I'm not attracted to you.
"You're handsome, smart, strong and nice etc" = I'm sexually and emotionally attracted to you.
 
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Jariel said:
This site does dramatise the negativity of being nice, but the only time it's negative is if it's preceded by "too" or followed by "but".
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Exactly
 
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