After couple of dates?

[Faca]

Hi guys, have been reading and learned a lot from this forum..

Have still one question though..

Have been dating this girl, for couple of weeks.. seeing eachother every week one time. Keeping things casual, have kissed and i know that she is interested. Although sometimes she seems really interested, and sometimes not at all.

Why these mixed signals? (is she testing me)

And if i want to become exclusive with this chick, what should i do.. so she is the first to ask, to only date eachother?..

I know she is not dating other guys, but has a lot of guy friends that have interest in her .. and are trying to pick her up. Is a good idea to show a little bit of jealousy, or just act cold as if it doesn't bother me?..

Thanks already

ps. with my previous experiences, the girl was always the first to ask to only date eachother..

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

Give her the best sex she ever had,she will be exclusive to you (at least as long as you don't **** up) and you can still **** other girls.

 

[Faca]

Nice advice, but with this girl i'll have to take it easy. So you would say, that there wasn't enough attraction, and i should be more of a challenge?.. Cause mostly i'm the one to contact her.//

 

[mountain]

One thing thats never mentioned on here is menstrual cycle, but it heavily plays into how a girl acts towards you (hot/cold). Meet a girl on the right day of the month and she'll **** just about anyone. "Always assume interest" is the best mentality, just go for what you want and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out.

 

[mountain]

oh, and if you haven't even sexed this woman then don't get exclusivity ideas in your head. you're putting the cart before the horse and thats a recipe for a good case of one-itis. never ask to be exclusive, let her do that.

 

[Faca]

Thaks Mountain,

You're right about the menstrual cycle, it hasn't been mentioned here.. And it's a big point for the them. They think with their emotions, and if these are ****ed up.. then you've already lost before you've started.

 

[flexion_]

Well if she is giving you mixed signals then most likely her interest level isn't that high. Plus you are the one always calling her and you aren't making any sexual moves - the kissing doesn't even sound that exciting.

No spark? If not, its just a matter of time before its over.

 

[Faca]

There is a spark, but she just got out of a long relationship.. and i think she want to be carefull..

I did notice, when i get cold and withdraw my attention to her.. that she'll give me more attention and try harder.

So i would say that the interest level isn't that high, otherwise she would be in my bed right ..but it's not far under that i can't do anything about it ?