After a brief research i found that i was involved a girl with BPD

[georgie24]

hey guys

before i start the finger pointing something is matter with me for to have stayed with her for a couple years.

AFter having some alone time last few days and being online i fugured out and matched up the fact she is borderline personality disorder, she is 8 years younger than i am as well.

im a few days out of the mess, im hurting and want her back like heroin,,,, for the best is i do what the research has said i do RUN abd stop contact.

im going through withdrawls bad right now and want her back

this is so hard

 

[jophil28]

Stay away, one day at a time.

 

[squirrels]

hey guys

before i start the finger pointing something is matter with me for to have stayed with her for a couple years.

AFter having some alone time last few days and being online i fugured out and matched up the fact she is borderline personality disorder, she is 8 years younger than i am as well.

im a few days out of the mess, im hurting and want her back like heroin,,,, for the best is i do what the research has said i do RUN abd stop contact.

im going through withdrawls bad right now and want her back

this is so hard

8 years younger than you is...how old? (Put your age in your profile if you want to post here)

 

[Johnnyventana]

georgie28,

It is good the you self-identified that something about yourself attracted you to her and kept you in the relationship. Read the link below for more on that, and more on her. It is a very helpful read, especially given your self-awareness.

http://gettinbetter.com/obsessed.html (OBSESSED WITH A BORDERLINE -
A Matter of Attraction and Revulsion)

 

[MonkeyButt]

No contact is the key.

I survived (barely) a 14 year marriage with a BPD/Narcissist which ended terribly and left me devastated.

1) Go no contact (do not check her face book, emails, *.*, nothing!).
2) Make yourself go out, be around people, use meetup.com or something.
3) Work on yourself (especially exercise).
4) Learn about yourself, not her disease. You'll be tempted, but after the initial awakening, waste no more time on it. You're hanging on.
5) Get a support group. Whether it be parents, friends (tough for a guy), or a support group (I used OJAR.com - didn't know about this site at the time).

Keep posting, there are anonymous friends out here!

M

 

[ELMER_GANTRY]

NO CONTACT and when she does contact you, which she will at some point, make sure you you keep the NC in tact.

 

[georgie24]

day 2 of true NC !

 

[5string]

The only thing more dangerous to one's emotional well being than oneitis, is oneitis for a BPD.

 

[Atom Smasher]

day 2 of true NC !

Keep it up. You're withdrawing from a drug that would have eaten you alive had you stayed.

It WILL get easier. Stay strong. Remember that the tendency is to start remembering all the good idealized memories, and to block out the bad. Keep in mind that this selective memory is a complete illusion and you will see clearly soon.

You found out that a BPD always erodes and eventually can destroy a man's spirit. There's no going back (to that relationship). We're here to help and encourage.