Yes I am only 22 years old but I have this fear of ending up alone. Sure taking girls home from the club and nailing them is nice to a point but I'm not very fond of these type of women except for the night. Are there any girls worth having a meaningful relationship with and where can you find them
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Afraid of being alone
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Kupid Diggs
Don Juan
Word of advice... You won't meet any quality women at the club...
Biggest bull$hit ever.Kupid Diggs said:Word of advice... You won't meet any quality women at the club...
There is a difference between lonely and bachelor. Lonely guy NEEDS somebody there at the end of the night to go home to because he feels that it's him vs. the world and the only person who isn't out to get him is his significant other.
The bachelor WANTS somebody there at the end of the night who will come home with him because he feels that she should come into his world and enjoy the experience that will be being with him. It's not him vs. the rest of the world...it's mostly him AND the rest of the world vs. him since he is constantly on a path to self-improvement, a better person.
Now bud_2005, the question you need to ask yourself is, "Am I THAT insecure about myself that I absolutely NEED a girlfriend/wife in this lifetime?"
Make no mistake about it, walking the path of a real Man in this world is a lonely one but you always have allies at your disposal (i.e. the rest of the world).
The loneliest man in the world is the one who lays in bed next to a woman who he absolutely despises and she does him.
I believe you have been that person before. Do you really want to be that guy again?
You should be going out and having fun, enjoying the single life, in my opinion. When I was 22 I was strapped down to a girl I thought I loved but didn't, and guess what, I stuck it out till I was 26 (earlier this year) when it finally ended and I lost all of those years being tied to one person whom I didn't match up with at all.bud_2005 said:Yes I am only 22 years old
What else are you doing with your time lamenting your loneliness? That's self destructive and self perpetuating. Do you think any girl is going to be attracted to a needy guy who is willing to do anything not to be alone? If a girl did that to me I'd run for the hills.
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being alone is part of the human experience.. your fear the tragedy that is human reality... but reality cares not of your cowardice....
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You are still quite young. You have plenty of time to find that special girl. It could happen soon or it could happen late in your life, but when it does, its worth the wait. As to where to find her, they are pretty much everywhere. She could be that girl who served you coffee. Or she could be that girl you pass by on the isle at the supermarket. She could be that girl pumping gas next to you. Or she could be that friend of a friend you haven't met yet. Most of my friends whom has gotten married found their wife through mutual friends.bud_2005 said:Yes I am only 22 years old but I have this fear of ending up alone. Sure taking girls home from the club and nailing them is nice to a point but I'm not very fond of these type of women except for the night. Are there any girls worth having a meaningful relationship with and where can you find them
First and formost, you should not harbor such fear. It will subconsciously make you more needy and hurt your relationships.