Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Affects of adrenaline on sexual arousal

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IDK what posting rules are in here, so I’ll just leave small excerpt and link for anyone interested.

“To the psychologists, the study said something intriguing about sexual attraction: It can transpire from arousal in the form of fear. "The results of these studies," they wrote in 1974, "would seem to provide a basis of support for an emotion-sexual attraction link."

Subsequent studies have found the same link between sheer physical arousal and sexual attraction. In a 2003 study of non-romantic partners on roller coaster rides, researchers found that "ratings of attractiveness and dating desirability toward a photographed individual were substantially higher among those who had completed" the ride, noting that "residual arousal from riding a roller-coaster intensified participants' later experience of attraction."


To summarise (and I’ve read this in peer reviewed studies), women get more easily sexually aroused when feeling anxious / fearful due to release of adrenaline.

This may explain why they get turned on by bad boy / alphas, possibly because their aggressiveness / stature somewhat scares them (like a monster); their ballsy risk taking behaviours startles them; and their indifferent ‘see you when I see you’ attitude keeps them even more in a heightened state of anxiety.

If you lack alpha attributes, maybe your first date should be on a rollercoaster or cage diving with 20ft great white sharks. That should scare her enough to get you laid.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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IDK what posting rules are in here, so I’ll just leave small excerpt and link for anyone interested.

“To the psychologists, the study said something intriguing about sexual attraction: It can transpire from arousal in the form of fear. "The results of these studies," they wrote in 1974, "would seem to provide a basis of support for an emotion-sexual attraction link."

Subsequent studies have found the same link between sheer physical arousal and sexual attraction. In a 2003 study of non-romantic partners on roller coaster rides, researchers found that "ratings of attractiveness and dating desirability toward a photographed individual were substantially higher among those who had completed" the ride, noting that "residual arousal from riding a roller-coaster intensified participants' later experience of attraction."


To summarise (and I’ve read this in peer reviewed studies), women get more easily sexually aroused when feeling anxious / fearful due to release of adrenaline.

This may explain why they get turned on by bad boy / alphas, possibly because their aggressiveness / stature somewhat scares them (like a monster); their ballsy risk taking behaviours startles them; and their indifferent ‘see you when I see you’ attitude keeps them even more in a heightened state of anxiety.

If you lack alpha attributes, maybe your first date should be on a rollercoaster or cage diving with 20ft great white sharks. That should scare her enough to get you laid.
My late dad had only let me watch Popeye (cartoons) growing up. It was how he moseyed through life. All women to him were Olive Oyl.
 

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My late dad had only let me watch Popeye (cartoons) growing up. It was how he moseyed through life. All women to him were Olive Oyl.
lmao I suppose there’s still got to be something sexually attractive about the guy because if adrenaline did have such a powerful effect on inducing arousal, then women would enjoy being stalked by ugly dudes.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Emotional tension (which pumps adrenaline) is not regulated to just women. Take a look at this forum. Plenty of men have become fixated on women that have given them the push/pull - hot/cold treatment. In my lifetime, I've also fallen for it as we all have.

Our goal should be to reflect on those experiences that we've endured and attempt to avoid these in the future. But also remember the affect it had on us... and turn the tables (responsibly applying this toward women).
 

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Avoid boredom and you will do fine. Fear anxiety, hate, etc etc can be arousing. (Hate fck) Just avoid boredom.

Women can be extremely vindictive and cruel and a pleasant sub. All which can be arousing.
Its that boredom thing. A bored woman can murder you. Lol
Avoid boredom and you will do fine. Fear anxiety, hate, etc etc can be arousing. (Hate fck) Just avoid boredom.

Women can be extremely vindictive and cruel and a pleasant sub. All which can be arousing.
Its that boredom thing. A bored woman can murder you. Lol
This guy was 40 YO virgin until he started dressing up as a tree and scaring - literally - the panties off women. Now he’s slaying left, right and centre.

Just be a tree, bro

 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I heard or read somewhere a long time ago that women need to feel something. If it’s not something good, then something bad will do. Explains a lot of them sticking around with psycho or excessively aggressive men.
 

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This guy was 40 YO virgin until he started dressing up as a tree and scaring - literally - the panties off women. Now he’s slaying left, right and centre.

Just be a tree, bro

Fear and laughter are extremely sexual to women.

I’ve always been amazed at how women almost universally cover their mouths when they scream or are startled. It’s a reflexive action that almost all women do.

I hear this guy ended up marrying Kate Bush.
 
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