Affair with a married woman

[Andrewdiceclay]

What are your thoughts about these type of relationships, how to handle them, and what do you think of the woman having the affair?

Met an older woman 7 months ago online. Had several plates at the time and would go weeks without talking to her but she would always reach out to me. Said they had an open marriage. Met her 2 months ago and there was more than attraction. Heavy chemistry. Continued to go on dates. One of those dates she came clean and said her husband didn't actually know. Told her I couldn't partake in that. Didn't talk for five days but then she hit me up. Thought I had the strength to just talk. F**cked her last time I saw her for hours but it was more passion than anything. I'm still spinning plates but feeling bored with them cause of my attraction to married woman. She could have just walked out of maxim magazine. Since we slept together she seems to be less flirty but we talk all day everyday regularly. She is always available to talk to me and wondering where I am even when on vacations/errands/ hanging with her husband. I delay my responses as much as possible. She will make remarks about how many hours it took to get back to her or hit me up over different social media accounts if she doesn't hear back from me via text in what she thinks is a timely manner.

I already know what a horrible person I am to partake in an affair and etc. I know I will have to end it.

But has anyone ever had an affair situation like this and what happened? What do you think the less flirty could be? What possesses women to carry on affairs like this? Is it just attention or feelings? Looking for insight to understand.

 

[Spaz]

Married women, divorced women, single mothers = Expired products. Only the desperate would want to open an expired tin can of worms and eat it.

 

[Glassguy]

Married women, divorced women, single mothers = Expired products. Only the desperate would want to open an expired tin can of worms and eat it.

Completely disagree.

It only takes one to divorce, walk out on a kid, etc. With divorce rates at or above 50% in the US, there are a lot of women who are divorced who ultimately make very good plates and some that are definitely LTR potential. It all depends on where you are at in the life cycle.

If I was 20-28 I wouldnt think of spinning/dating a divorcee or single mother. At 40, I have had my fair share of divorced women/single mothers that were between 26-34. Some were crazy, others were not. I can say the same for all of the unmarried women with no kids that I have dated over the course of the last 20 some years.

I will assume that you are in the 18-28 year old range. Just wait until you're 40.....they will start looking better lol.

 

[RangerMIke]

Marriage is an outdated concept well past it's expiration date. I don't make moral judgement about people who ignore that stupid practice. My advice however is to stay away from married chicks. Not because of some stupid morality, but because there are just too many other chicks that are not married to hook-up with.

It's just too much drama... sneaking around... waiting around on the chick when she is available. Not to mention the sh!t storm of bullsh!t waiting for you when the potentially psycho hubby comes looking for you, or the judgement you are going to get from white knights and other chicks...

I disagree with @Spaz. Divorced chicks and single mom's are not automatically bad news... But I agree you should be careful. I'm dating a couple, they are both divorced with kids, both are business owners and very successful on their own they are not looking for another husband and really don't want me for anything accept sex... which is perfect for me.

 

[The Duke]

But has anyone ever had an affair situation like this and what happened? What do you think the less flirty could be? What possesses women to carry on affairs like this? Is it just attention or feelings? Looking for insight to understand.

Several years ago, I fuhked my physical therapist whom was married. She wasn't happy in her marriage. Basically a case where her and her husband quit working on things together and lost the spark. She wasn't getting her feelings "validated" at home so she looked elsewhere as many women do when their husbands quit paying attention to them.

On more than one occasion her and I would be sitting in my gym parking lot in her vehicle while she was talking to her husband on the phone explaining to him that she would be home late because she was out "shopping".

The affair continued for 3months. She started buying me gifts and caught feelings. That's when I ended it. I told her she needed to go back to her husband and work things out. At that time she told me she was certain that her husband was cheating on her with some girl he worked with.

After our deal ended she called me and said she admitted to her husband she was with me and asked if I was interested in a 3some. The only other guy she wanted to be with was me. lol. Uhm hell no I'm not interested in that.

Eventually they got serious about fixing their marriage and now she won't even return a fakebook message.

My exwife cheated on me, basically because I quit paying attention to her. Got tired of her complaining. I didn't make time for her or our relationship and things drifted apart. She sought another guy to validate and make her feel desirable.

Most women don't cheat for physical reasons, they cheat for mental reasons. Women need a connection with a man.

 

[marmel75]

What are your thoughts about these type of relationships, how to handle them, and what do you think of the woman having the affair?

Met an older woman 7 months ago online. Had several plates at the time and would go weeks without talking to her but she would always reach out to me. Said they had an open marriage. Met her 2 months ago and there was more than attraction. Heavy chemistry. Continued to go on dates. One of those dates she came clean and said her husband didn't actually know. Told her I couldn't partake in that. Didn't talk for five days but then she hit me up. Thought I had the strength to just talk. F**cked her last time I saw her for hours but it was more passion than anything. I'm still spinning plates but feeling bored with them cause of my attraction to married woman. She could have just walked out of maxim magazine. Since we slept together she seems to be less flirty but we talk all day everyday regularly. She is always available to talk to me and wondering where I am even when on vacations/errands/ hanging with her husband. I delay my responses as much as possible. She will make remarks about how many hours it took to get back to her or hit me up over different social media accounts if she doesn't hear back from me via text in what she thinks is a timely manner.

I already know what a horrible person I am to partake in an affair and etc. I know I will have to end it.

But has anyone ever had an affair situation like this and what happened? What do you think the less flirty could be? What possesses women to carry on affairs like this? Is it just attention or feelings? Looking for insight to understand.

Why the hell does she have your social media account info? Dudes need to stop with that BS. Give her 1 way to contact you and that does NOT include social media...

 

[wifehunter]

Ask yourself this question:

Do I hate myself?

 

[Spaz]

Completely disagree.

It only takes one to divorce, walk out on a kid, etc. With divorce rates at or above 50% in the US, there are a lot of women who are divorced who ultimately make very good plates and some that are definitely LTR potential. It all depends on where you are at in the life cycle.

If I was 20-28 I wouldnt think of spinning/dating a divorcee or single mother. At 40, I have had my fair share of divorced women/single mothers that were between 26-34. Some were crazy, others were not. I can say the same for all of the unmarried women with no kids that I have dated over the course of the last 20 some years.

I will assume that you are in the 18-28 year old range. Just wait until you're 40.....they will start looking better lol.

I'm 46.

I don't date divorced or married women.

I date primarily below 27 yrs old. Plenty of those childless and unmarried women around.

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

Ask yourself this question:

Do I hate myself?

Nope. Sex is bomb. Get along great and she is fine as hell.

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

Married women, divorced women, single mothers = Expired products. Only the desperate would want to open an expired tin can of worms and eat it.

Have to disagree partially and say it's situational. A lot are very smart and successful but rushed into the "American dream". Some are shattered by this... others... just know exactly what they want and who they are because of it. I date a lot of younger girls but my favorite are the older. You're missing out.

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

Several years ago, I fuhked my physical therapist whom was married. She wasn't happy in her marriage. Basically a case where her and her husband quit working on things together and lost the spark. She wasn't getting her feelings "validated" at home so she looked elsewhere as many women do when their husbands quit paying attention to them.

On more than one occasion her and I would be sitting in my gym parking lot in her vehicle while she was talking to her husband on the phone explaining to him that she would be home late because she was out "shopping".

The affair continued for 3months. She started buying me gifts and caught feelings. That's when I ended it. I told her she needed to go back to her husband and work things out. At that time she told me she was certain that her husband was cheating on her with some girl he worked with.

After our deal ended she called me and said she admitted to her husband she was with me and asked if I was interested in a 3some. The only other guy she wanted to be with was me. lol. Uhm hell no I'm not interested in that.

Eventually they got serious about fixing their marriage and now she won't even return a fakebook message.

My exwife cheated on me, basically because I quit paying attention to her. Got tired of her complaining. I didn't make time for her or our relationship and things drifted apart. She sought another guy to validate and make her feel desirable.

Most women don't cheat for physical reasons, they cheat for mental reasons. Women need a connection with a man.

I wonder if it has anything to do with the man or just pure exhilaration

 

[wifehunter]

Nope. Sex is bomb. Get along great and she is fine as hell.

You are delusional.

 

[Spaz]

Have to disagree partially and say it's situational. A lot are very smart and successful but rushed into the "American dream". Some are shattered by this... others... just know exactly what they want and who they are because of it. I date a lot of younger girls but my favorite are the older. You're missing out.

Probability of disruption/drama from husbands, ex husbands, kids or from any members of the women's family is higher. How does one profit from this?

There's plenty of older unmarried childless women out there too.

I miss nothing.

 

[highSpeed]

Several years ago, I fuhked my physical therapist whom was married. She wasn't happy in her marriage. Basically a case where her and her husband quit working on things together and lost the spark. She wasn't getting her feelings "validated" at home so she looked elsewhere as many women do when their husbands quit paying attention to them.

On more than one occasion her and I would be sitting in my gym parking lot in her vehicle while she was talking to her husband on the phone explaining to him that she would be home late because she was out "shopping".

The affair continued for 3months. She started buying me gifts and caught feelings. That's when I ended it. I told her she needed to go back to her husband and work things out. At that time she told me she was certain that her husband was cheating on her with some girl he worked with.

After our deal ended she called me and said she admitted to her husband she was with me and asked if I was interested in a 3some. The only other guy she wanted to be with was me. lol. Uhm hell no I'm not interested in that.

Eventually they got serious about fixing their marriage and now she won't even return a fakebook message.

My exwife cheated on me, basically because I quit paying attention to her. Got tired of her complaining. I didn't make time for her or our relationship and things drifted apart. She sought another guy to validate and make her feel desirable.

Most women don't cheat for physical reasons, they cheat for mental reasons. Women need a connection with a man.

Gotta call bs on this post man. Your ex wife cheated on you because you stopped paying attention to her? Now I wonder what preceded that. Could it be she quite putting effort into the relationship which eventually caused you to stop putting effort in. Why would you keep putting effort into a relationship if you're not getting anything back out? I know plenty of relationships, mine included, where the wife simply stops doing the things that got their significant other attracted to them in the first place. Then they b*tch and moan that he doesn't do all the stuff he used to do. Well no sh*t he doesn't, why would he?

I'm not picking on you man but it's this self deprecating nonsense that has to stop. How many guys you know, percentage-wise, that walk out on their family to bang the secretary? It happens but I'm willing to bet that the "I caught feelings for a married someone" crowd usually is in the female camp. Guys may fool around, usually when the spouse stops doing what she did to get him hooked in the first place, but they're coming home. Women start fooling around, usually because they stopped doing the things that got them "validated" at home (you know, a woman could never be responsible for their own behavior) but they destroy the home because of it.

 

[Masculinity]

What are your thoughts about these type of relationships, how to handle them, and what do you think of the woman having the affair?

Met an older woman 7 months ago online. Had several plates at the time and would go weeks without talking to her but she would always reach out to me. Said they had an open marriage. Met her 2 months ago and there was more than attraction. Heavy chemistry. Continued to go on dates. One of those dates she came clean and said her husband didn't actually know. Told her I couldn't partake in that. Didn't talk for five days but then she hit me up. Thought I had the strength to just talk. F**cked her last time I saw her for hours but it was more passion than anything. I'm still spinning plates but feeling bored with them cause of my attraction to married woman. She could have just walked out of maxim magazine. Since we slept together she seems to be less flirty but we talk all day everyday regularly. She is always available to talk to me and wondering where I am even when on vacations/errands/ hanging with her husband. I delay my responses as much as possible. She will make remarks about how many hours it took to get back to her or hit me up over different social media accounts if she doesn't hear back from me via text in what she thinks is a timely manner.

I already know what a horrible person I am to partake in an affair and etc. I know I will have to end it.

But has anyone ever had an affair situation like this and what happened? What do you think the less flirty could be? What possesses women to carry on affairs like this? Is it just attention or feelings? Looking for insight to understand.

I'd like to see a person who sleeps with married people to be cheated on so that they can see the damage they cause. There's no such thing as an open marriage; it is inherently exclusive.

I don't understand why people cheat or become an accessory to cheating when they're are so many women out there.

 

[The Duke]

Gotta call bs on this post man. Your ex wife cheated on you because you stopped paying attention to her?

Marriage will last beyond the fourth year based on two key predictors—how couples deal with conflict, and how they meet the need for attention.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo.../201611/why-we-all-just-need-little-attention

You are pretty quick to jump to conclusions on something you know little about.

 

[highSpeed]

Marriage will last beyond the fourth year based on two key predictors—how couples deal with conflict, and how they meet the need for attention.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo.../201611/why-we-all-just-need-little-attention

You are pretty quick to jump to conclusions on something you know little about.

so, let me rephrase here, what I was calling bs on was you blaming yourself for not "paying enough attention" to her. What I've found, in my experience anyway, is that the man's lack of interest is often preceded by the woman's lack of effort in the relationship. I'm not attacking you, I'm more wondering if it was at worst, a 50-50 deal or at best, she drops her input and you eventually do the same type of thing. Again, as I mentioned in my other post, why would you continue to put max effort into a situation where it is not appreciated or reciprocated? The reality of it, you won't, I won't, no one will. It'd be like asking you to continue to go to work, put in max effort and they'll get around to paying you when they feel like it. Not going to happen right?