Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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AFCed it up, did I blow it?

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Went out with a girl who I had been friends with for 2 years or so, we dated for about 2 months till she "lost the feeling" During the 2 years I was pretty much a DJ in front of her, she came out with me and my friends and all the girls I was hanging with, even any g/f I had at the time. Then something clicked and I made out with her and we started going out. Was awesome, never happer in my life. Then I turned into a AFC x 500. I was a pu$$y whiped moron. Basicly did everything wrong. Then she lost the feeling after about 2 months. So now we are "Just friends" we were friends with benifits for about a month and the sex was like 10x better than when we were going out. But now she said we gotta stop that =/ But anyways. Did I totaly blow it with her forever? Or you think if I go my own way for a bit she might come around? She was everything I wanted in a girl. I still have really strong feelings for her, but been chatting with like 4-5 girls to take my mind off her a bit. Not ready for a LTR, just want a lil play.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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its sounds to me....like you got played.(sorta) i dont think her "feeling" was ever really there.


in a way...no disrespect...but if she shared those feelings you shared...even if you were an AFC....it would of taken more for it to end.

but then again the AFC might of killed it.

but she might of dated you..because she thinks ur attractive.....and it was safe....

that kind of emotion doenst come and go that fast.


give me examples of how u were an AFC?

also did u tell her u loved her?
 
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You felll in love with a hor??? And the hor left you!!! Goody gum drops, I hope your heart breaks in two and the hor splits it again into fourths!!!

Fool!! You were just the next pimp in line!!! Why do you love filth??
 

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Ya I did say I loved her and bought her flowers. I pretty much was always there, called here every day. Would go way out of my way for her, was like a lil puppy. Think I smotherd her a bit. She said he had feelings at one point, never got to the point where she loved me. Then she said she wanted to want me in a big chat we had but who knows. She said she never got jelous either, maybe she just had lust.

She was only my 3rd real G/F and she has had way more b/fs than that. So it prolly is easyer for her to not care or get over things than me.

But after we broke up we stoped talking for like a week, and then she came over to drop off my game cube and said she almost cried cause she missed me so much. Then I went back to AFC =(

For about a week or so after that she was the one calling all the time, even when she would get a break in work which she never really did when we were going out. I think it was too clear to her that I was never going anywhere when we were going out. I am one of them " nice guys" In last place again.
 

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Ya I did say I loved her and bought her flowers
never ever buy her flowers unless its valentines day or anniversary


I pretty much was always there, called here every day

talking to her everyday isnt bad..exp since you were friends...before..but she should be calling u half the time..and she should be excited to talk to you.


For about a week or so after that she was the one calling all the time, even when she would get a break in work which she never really did when we were going out. I think it was too clear to her that I was never going anywhere when we were going out. I am one of them " nice guys" In last place again.


pick up ur balls..RE-Read the bible..and move on to more women
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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