AFCdom and success

[Lexington]

Back when I was a BAFC (below average), it was incredibly frustrating. I would see dudes holding hands with their pretty girlfriends and it just made me green with envy. I probably would have done anything to get a proper girlfriend (the best I managed was the occasional hook-up with a drunk sorostitute). But looking back on it now, I realize that I wasn't ready for it.

In a way, not having a girlfriend actually helped me. I was such a chump back then that if I did have a girlfriend, I would have completely dedicated my life to her. Not having the time demands of a girlfriend on my plate, I managed to buckle down and study. I am by nature a lazy person. If I didn't have my dad pushing me, I would never have studied. I definitely wouldn't have studied much at all if I had a girlfriend.

A couple of my AFC friends had their life courses completely changed because they landed girlfriends before they were ready. Both of them ended up devoting themselves to their girls. One of them was studying to be a chemical engineer. But because he spent all his time with his girl, he failed a bunch of classes and he ended up switching to an easier major. Now he's looking for a job as a high school teacher in a time when they are cutting those jobs left and right. That girl dumped him a few years ago.

My other friend aspired to be a lawyer. He could have done it. But he ended up dedicating his life to his girl. Instead he decided to stay with her when she pursued graduate school at a school where they didn't have a law school. So he worked odd jobs that don't even require college degrees while she studied. They were briefly engaged, but as the girl neared the end of her studies, she dumped him.

Both of these guys could have had it so much better. One of them would have been a chemical engineer and the other would have been a lawyer. Instead, both of them are 3 years out of college and wondering what to do with their lives. They would have hated the though of being in such a predicament just a few short year ago. That could have been me.

I'm glad that I got into a good career and I know where my life is going. At the age of 25, a man is a hell of a lot wiser than he was when he was 21 or 22. I am glad that I did not make any stupid decisions back then that altered the course of my life. It's so sad that many guys do.

 

[backbreaker]

i've said this at least 500 times here and this is 100% true. from the time i was 18 until a week after i was 21 i did not go on a date, or have sex with a woman. i spent my entire time devoting myself to my business at the time. to be quite honest it ****ing sucked. i thought i never was going to get laid there for a while. it was well worth it in the long run.

 

[Kailex]

A lot of these guys in their late teens and early twenties see "women" as the goal. I don't know at what point that starts, but it used to be that you'd go to school, get a career, get married, have kids.

All these goals revolved around getting the woman, when in reality, the goal should have been go to school, get a career, become a better person and man and eventually when you find someone that'll add value to your life, MAYBE you'll get married and MAYBE then have kids.

I don't know why so many people are rushed to try to achieve these goals by no later than 22-23.

At what point does it really start? Is it our parent's example?
To those of us in our 20's, most of our parents are divorcing, specially those in the early 20's. My father and mother "oops-ed" me at age 22. Way too young...

Ask any person in their teens what their goal in life is and they'll tell you that it is to be successful and right at the end of the sentence something about a woman will probably rear its ugly head.

Look at all the guys that post in the Discussion forum that are 18 - 23 that really haven't had a relationship and how they feel "doomed" because they haven't done so. This is quite easily the purest example of AFC and success: Some of these kids would probably give up their futures just to have a go at the vagine.