Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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AFC to girls with bad confidence?

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Let's say that the girl is ugly (Let's say below 5/10) or has a bad confidence. Bad confidence may mean that she is beautiful but doesn't consider herself as good-looking, but also that the girl is depressed, in a bad mood, or ... well... just damn f'cking ugly.

But, as we all know, ugly girls may be very confident too. It's a pain in the ass, but it's true :p Okay, now to the point.

This year i've been acting totally AFC for almost the whole time(started to change totally 2 months ago) , getting, let's say, "not that good looking"-girls but also "so-so looking"-girls (let's say HB 6-6.5) but with very low self-esteem.

Let me tell you.

To one girl I were the all-understanding Mr. Nice guy who always answered her calls and were willing to spend the night with her DAMN BORING GIRLFRIENDS. We made out at some parties, but never ended up having sex. Well, I dumped her after a couple of nights making out.

The girl has bad self-esteem, and have been used by guys before, which according to her, was 'nothing compared with me'.

Another girl ended a 4 year relationship with her boyfriend because he treated her very bad (hitting her, screaming at her, yadda yadda) , and i spoke a lot to her over the phone (she lives far away from me). We spoke for hours, and - now when i think about it - it's pretty f'king AFC to talk to some girl over the phone and tell her what an ******* her ex-boyfriend was. She said she liked me a lot, and one night when she were drunk she called up and said she thought she started to fall in love with me. This because i were such a nice guy, and no other guys spoke to her for hours over the phone and understand how her life worked.

I Had a short term relationship with a third girl, who got dumped after 3 weeks. She has VERY LOW self-esteem, shy, etc. etc. and fell in love with me just because i gave her some attention and told her i liked her personality (which i really didn't.). I wanted to f'ck the girl, and i did. She got dumped, and found a new boyfriend 1 month later.


What i mean with those three examples above is that you definitely may get girls by acting AFC, as long as they have low self-esteem, no matter if they're beautiful or ugly.

What do you think about it?
You ever acted AFC with good results?

May, let's say, ****y+Funny be even WRONG in some cases? (If it's practiced on a girl with low self-esteem...)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SamePendo

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Try going to a gothic chick, and start talking about rainbow and sunshine.

We as DJs, are confident, happy, masculine, succesfull, and many things more. We are looking for the same. So, naturaly, our skills attract chicks with good humor, inteligent, etc.

As far as your question... why do you think so many people are married?
 

Gangster Of Love

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With those girls you just act nice, but confident. Avoid too much ball busting and c/f, etc. Don't overdo the niceness, though, because even they will run away.
 

Fenderules

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like they says "you are wut you eat'


so if you attract who you are.

if your are shy nervous and afc, you get an afc girl.

if your confident and fun, you get a fun confident girl..... simple
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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There is no doubt you can attract girls with an AFC mindset. However, I seriously question the quality of these relationships which I feel will always be very low as your experience suggests.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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