AFC or DJ?!?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Resident DJ

Don Juan

Jun 28, 2004

This topic somewhat relates (for me) to another one floating around...something along the lines of "how often do you sarge". I thought about it, and realized i'm ALWAYS sarging, pretty much no matter where i'm at, EXCEPT ON THE JOB. I go to work to make money, not pick up chicks.

There's plenty of opportunity to mack off the clock, there's no reason to possibly jeopardize your career just to pick up a chick. I guess there's a chance it could work out well, but a far greater chance for it to have negative results. I'd say you did ok. Mack off the clock.

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.