Like it states in the titles guys! This is driving me crazy, but my attitude towards it was pretty content, I did not show any emotion.(didn't lose my temper) Basically there has been an AFC that my girlfriend works with in mortgages that keeps buying her gifts. She has recently gotten laid off a couple of weeks ago and has no other choice but to work with this guy for some $$ funds to pay her bills. They had something going on in the past but it didn't seem to work out, but he said he would be there for her if she ever lost her job, and until she just got fired, she accepted his offer. But I let her know it was a bad idea because she does not trust this guy, this guy has also been stalking her constantly and sometimes buys food and drops it off at the front of her house without her consent. She's been telling me it bugs her, but now that he works with her, it seems as if he is trying to "buy" her heart. My gf is the kindest girl in the whole wide world, but recently he bought her a LAPTOP YES, A BRAND NEW LAPTOP! :cuss: After she felt bad for taking it, she tried to give it back he wouldn't accept it, and told her, "you deserve it, girls shouldn't have to work, look at you, you work so hard and look at what you have." Also, when they work together he buys her food all the time when she is hungry. It is making me MAD. The worst part is that when they work, he just wants her to stick around with him and lets her do the "easy stuff" like basic data entry. Now, my gf is very experienced in the workforce, she has a lot of different types of licenses for financing. She told me she will get another job soon so that she does not have to work with this guy but it has been almost a month and a half, and he is not really paying her that much, just enough to stick by(not counting the laptop). Now she talked to me about it because she is very loyal, and asked me if she should return the laptop, I told her the laptop is not a gift, it is more of a burden. She said that was true. I told her to give it back so that she won't have a burden on her and feels like she owes him anything. I asked her, do you feel that he loves you? She replied, "I feel like he really loves me when he buys me things." Did I do the right thing? He is the type of guy that keeps buying her things. I have money but I don't feel as if I need to "buy" her love. Thanks in advanced.
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You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
AFC keeps buying my gf gifts!
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She is not taking advantage of the situation, if I told her to give me the laptop, she would do it. But that's not my personality. Just wanted to vent. I guess I did the right thing that I kept my cool, these past couple of weeks I have been trying to help her find a job. Any other input guys or anything I should watch out for?
I think you both are worrying about nothing. He's just very AFC. He sounds like a good guy and if he doesn't want to take back the laptop then fine keep it.Gamble said:
As long as she makes it clear shes not interested in him then she has nothing to worry about but you know that women love to flirt and lead men on! This is why it may have started.
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That dude is creepy. I wouldn't keep that laptop. As soon as the reality of him being denied hits home, he's going to come back angry. She should really get away from that stalky dude.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Use the gifts. Just take them from your GF and use them, while laughing and knowing some chump is buying them for YOU. Screw the other guy, just ignore him and laugh, he's no threat.
Use the laptop (surf for porn) and eat the food. It will be the best!
Use the laptop (surf for porn) and eat the food. It will be the best!
Joe The Homophobe
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your girlfriend is a conniving, manipulative, sneaky B|TCH! If she didn't want the stuff at all she would go ahead and take the laptop to the guy himself and say "no thanks."DJDamage said:
Francisco d'Anconia
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If she didn't want the laptop you should have told her to give it to you. What do you think the guy would have said when she told him that she gave it to her boyfriend?
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Either way, someone's going to end up taking a trip to the courthouse to get a temporary restraining order on the dude. Then you/she can explain to the judge why the laptop, etc. was accepted.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Francisco d'Anconia
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LAWSUIT! But seriously, there could be a bunch of hidden bennies gotten from this game...DJDamage said:
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Keep it up dude. You can be the indirect golddigger through her.
Tell her to ask him for those new Air Force Ones you always wanted. Then for that $300 platinum grill to match.
Then just tell her to ask for straight cash. This is a capitalist society, so you must CAPITALIZE!
Tell her to ask him for those new Air Force Ones you always wanted. Then for that $300 platinum grill to match.
Then just tell her to ask for straight cash. This is a capitalist society, so you must CAPITALIZE!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Psssstttt........I think it's called a PIMP...Supremo said:
Which reminds me... Get you're pimp name here...
http://www.playerappreciate.com/pimphandle.asp
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
And you know what, this should be a lesson to guys who believe that women just look for guys who have money and give them a bunch of gifts. Here's a guy who's doing it and he's getting nowhere because she's with a man who keeps her interest because of who he is and not by what he gives her.Gamble said:
Now go get yourself a pimp name playa'...
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Interesting. Pimpin your girlfriend without her having to sell her pvssy!?
Haha yeah like everyone else said there is nothing to worry about. Have your girlfriend tell the afc that she is thinking about buying something. Maybe, he will get it for her!
Haha yeah like everyone else said there is nothing to worry about. Have your girlfriend tell the afc that she is thinking about buying something. Maybe, he will get it for her!
Gamble said:
I have never had a GF who would have accepted gifts from some other guy she. Either she likes to use people or she likes him. I think it's the first one. Regardless, this guy is creepy to the max. Reminds me of the movie Cable Guy when the Jim Carrey character gets that guy a lot of stereo quipment. Who the **** goes out and buys a girl a laptop??? I wouldn't even do that for a very serious GF.
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She should not have accepted the laptop to begin with, and she should definitely give it back. She's using this whole situation to her advantage, she's working this guy over and she knows it.
If that's how she wants to roll then fine, but she shouldn't act all shocked and weirded out by the results she's getting when she's the one fostering his behavior.
If that's how she wants to roll then fine, but she shouldn't act all shocked and weirded out by the results she's getting when she's the one fostering his behavior.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.