Like it states in the titles guys! This is driving me crazy, but my attitude towards it was pretty content, I did not show any emotion.(didn't lose my temper) Basically there has been an AFC that my girlfriend works with in mortgages that keeps buying her gifts. She has recently gotten laid off a couple of weeks ago and has no other choice but to work with this guy for some $$ funds to pay her bills. They had something going on in the past but it didn't seem to work out, but he said he would be there for her if she ever lost her job, and until she just got fired, she accepted his offer. But I let her know it was a bad idea because she does not trust this guy, this guy has also been stalking her constantly and sometimes buys food and drops it off at the front of her house without her consent. She's been telling me it bugs her, but now that he works with her, it seems as if he is trying to "buy" her heart. My gf is the kindest girl in the whole wide world, but recently he bought her a LAPTOP YES, A BRAND NEW LAPTOP! :cuss: After she felt bad for taking it, she tried to give it back he wouldn't accept it, and told her, "you deserve it, girls shouldn't have to work, look at you, you work so hard and look at what you have." Also, when they work together he buys her food all the time when she is hungry. It is making me MAD. The worst part is that when they work, he just wants her to stick around with him and lets her do the "easy stuff" like basic data entry. Now, my gf is very experienced in the workforce, she has a lot of different types of licenses for financing. She told me she will get another job soon so that she does not have to work with this guy but it has been almost a month and a half, and he is not really paying her that much, just enough to stick by(not counting the laptop). Now she talked to me about it because she is very loyal, and asked me if she should return the laptop, I told her the laptop is not a gift, it is more of a burden. She said that was true. I told her to give it back so that she won't have a burden on her and feels like she owes him anything. I asked her, do you feel that he loves you? She replied, "I feel like he really loves me when he buys me things." Did I do the right thing? He is the type of guy that keeps buying her things. I have money but I don't feel as if I need to "buy" her love. Thanks in advanced.
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
AFC keeps buying my gf gifts!
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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She is not taking advantage of the situation, if I told her to give me the laptop, she would do it. But that's not my personality. Just wanted to vent. I guess I did the right thing that I kept my cool, these past couple of weeks I have been trying to help her find a job. Any other input guys or anything I should watch out for?
I think you both are worrying about nothing. He's just very AFC. He sounds like a good guy and if he doesn't want to take back the laptop then fine keep it.Gamble said:
As long as she makes it clear shes not interested in him then she has nothing to worry about but you know that women love to flirt and lead men on! This is why it may have started.
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That dude is creepy. I wouldn't keep that laptop. As soon as the reality of him being denied hits home, he's going to come back angry. She should really get away from that stalky dude.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Use the gifts. Just take them from your GF and use them, while laughing and knowing some chump is buying them for YOU. Screw the other guy, just ignore him and laugh, he's no threat.
Use the laptop (surf for porn) and eat the food. It will be the best!
Use the laptop (surf for porn) and eat the food. It will be the best!
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
your girlfriend is a conniving, manipulative, sneaky B|TCH! If she didn't want the stuff at all she would go ahead and take the laptop to the guy himself and say "no thanks."DJDamage said:
Francisco d'Anconia
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If she didn't want the laptop you should have told her to give it to you. What do you think the guy would have said when she told him that she gave it to her boyfriend?
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Either way, someone's going to end up taking a trip to the courthouse to get a temporary restraining order on the dude. Then you/she can explain to the judge why the laptop, etc. was accepted.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
LAWSUIT! But seriously, there could be a bunch of hidden bennies gotten from this game...DJDamage said:
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Keep it up dude. You can be the indirect golddigger through her.
Tell her to ask him for those new Air Force Ones you always wanted. Then for that $300 platinum grill to match.
Then just tell her to ask for straight cash. This is a capitalist society, so you must CAPITALIZE!
Tell her to ask him for those new Air Force Ones you always wanted. Then for that $300 platinum grill to match.
Then just tell her to ask for straight cash. This is a capitalist society, so you must CAPITALIZE!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Psssstttt........I think it's called a PIMP...Supremo said:
Which reminds me... Get you're pimp name here...
http://www.playerappreciate.com/pimphandle.asp
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
And you know what, this should be a lesson to guys who believe that women just look for guys who have money and give them a bunch of gifts. Here's a guy who's doing it and he's getting nowhere because she's with a man who keeps her interest because of who he is and not by what he gives her.Gamble said:
Now go get yourself a pimp name playa'...
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Interesting. Pimpin your girlfriend without her having to sell her pvssy!?
Haha yeah like everyone else said there is nothing to worry about. Have your girlfriend tell the afc that she is thinking about buying something. Maybe, he will get it for her!
Haha yeah like everyone else said there is nothing to worry about. Have your girlfriend tell the afc that she is thinking about buying something. Maybe, he will get it for her!
Gamble said:
I have never had a GF who would have accepted gifts from some other guy she. Either she likes to use people or she likes him. I think it's the first one. Regardless, this guy is creepy to the max. Reminds me of the movie Cable Guy when the Jim Carrey character gets that guy a lot of stereo quipment. Who the **** goes out and buys a girl a laptop??? I wouldn't even do that for a very serious GF.
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She should not have accepted the laptop to begin with, and she should definitely give it back. She's using this whole situation to her advantage, she's working this guy over and she knows it.
If that's how she wants to roll then fine, but she shouldn't act all shocked and weirded out by the results she's getting when she's the one fostering his behavior.
If that's how she wants to roll then fine, but she shouldn't act all shocked and weirded out by the results she's getting when she's the one fostering his behavior.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.