backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I got a guy friend, who is crushin on this girl pretty damn bad. I talk to him often about game and how to treat women, how to talk to women. And he listens to what I'm saying, and then as soon as it comes to this chick, he just forgets everything lol. I used to do the same thing when I first came here. I'm sure the vast majority of the people on this forum that make these posts do the same thing. It all goes out the window in real life.
I've come to realize that it's not because we are hardheaded, it's because we don't feel that we are worth the woen we chase on our own merits. There is no amount of game, no amount of money, or looks or a new routine that will fix, overcoe your self worth if it's negative.
This chick, she's pretty but she's not just like a model or anything. she's a pretty girl but this dude is not bad looking, but he isn't happy with his life in a few areas. He could stand ot lose about 10 pounds, he doesn't get out much,a nd these aren't thing I'm judging about him these are things he knows about himself. he knows he needs to lose weight, he knows he has no life. He knows he has nothing to offer this chick and is still trying to chase this chick
so when you take a guy who
Knows he has some things to work on with himself so that he can be happy with himself and his self image
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Trying to date women
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There is only one possible answer and that's AFCism.
The fallacy people with no experience make in the above situtaiotn is thinking that the guy would treat the girl diferent if she were uglier or not a hb7 which i think she is. The thing is, becuase he isn't happy with himself, his reasons for dating aren't the same as say, MY reasons for dating. I date / or dated to have a good time, to get out the house, for entertainment. When you have a negative self image dating is just as much if not more about trying to find someone to make you feel better about yourself than it is about having fun.
Thus the AFC behavior presumes.
I believe the AFC state is simply the state in which a man is not happy with who he is or his life. I don't believe men should try to date in this state. You do more harm than good. The rejections, the wasted time, it's alot to overcome. The time is better spent getting out of this state.
Not only that, this guy if he would have just hit the gym hard for 2-3 months, went shopping and made himself get out the house he would start to feelin better about himself and then he would have the confidence to talk to this chick, the right way. But because he blew his wad in his AFC state of mind it's too late and he's already got shot down. Now she can't show interest if she wanted to because it would come off as her being shallow.
you don't ACT afc. you ARE afc.
I've come to realize that it's not because we are hardheaded, it's because we don't feel that we are worth the woen we chase on our own merits. There is no amount of game, no amount of money, or looks or a new routine that will fix, overcoe your self worth if it's negative.
This chick, she's pretty but she's not just like a model or anything. she's a pretty girl but this dude is not bad looking, but he isn't happy with his life in a few areas. He could stand ot lose about 10 pounds, he doesn't get out much,a nd these aren't thing I'm judging about him these are things he knows about himself. he knows he needs to lose weight, he knows he has no life. He knows he has nothing to offer this chick and is still trying to chase this chick
so when you take a guy who
Knows he has some things to work on with himself so that he can be happy with himself and his self image
+
Trying to date women
=
There is only one possible answer and that's AFCism.
The fallacy people with no experience make in the above situtaiotn is thinking that the guy would treat the girl diferent if she were uglier or not a hb7 which i think she is. The thing is, becuase he isn't happy with himself, his reasons for dating aren't the same as say, MY reasons for dating. I date / or dated to have a good time, to get out the house, for entertainment. When you have a negative self image dating is just as much if not more about trying to find someone to make you feel better about yourself than it is about having fun.
Thus the AFC behavior presumes.
I believe the AFC state is simply the state in which a man is not happy with who he is or his life. I don't believe men should try to date in this state. You do more harm than good. The rejections, the wasted time, it's alot to overcome. The time is better spent getting out of this state.
Not only that, this guy if he would have just hit the gym hard for 2-3 months, went shopping and made himself get out the house he would start to feelin better about himself and then he would have the confidence to talk to this chick, the right way. But because he blew his wad in his AFC state of mind it's too late and he's already got shot down. Now she can't show interest if she wanted to because it would come off as her being shallow.
you don't ACT afc. you ARE afc.
