"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Snyper

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Hey guys. I've been an AFC for as long as I can remember. It's my nature, I'm just too nice to people and I want to please them (guys and girls alike). I'm slowly but surely growing out of that nature right now, thank god, but that's not why I'm making this thread.

So I'm going shopping with a group of friends this upcoming Friday. I'm hoping it'll also be an occasion to pick up chicks. The question is, does being with a group of friends have some kind of a downside or an upside? How do I approach a girl? With my friends with me or left a bit behind? And if a girl is with a group, do I ignore the group, talk only to her or acknowledge all of them first then focus on her?

Greatly appreciated
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pathgen

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Don't ever ignore the group. Make friends with all of them. They have to accept you and once you have earned that accpetance is when your target will be comfortable with you.

Also, dont say your an afc. From this point on you are a Don Juan. People tell themselves they are this and they are that and they beleive it. If you say you are a stupid you might actually come to believe that. The same principle applies here.

As Pook says " Think and you shall become"
 

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in relation to Pathgen's post, you should treat this as a group that you are to approach. You should talk to all of them, befriend all of them, and then focus on the girl.

however, you need to not chase her. just have a conversation with her, then go back to talking to the group, then come back talking to her, and repeat. instead of making the trip an okay time shopping, make it a great time for her and your friends.
 

ignue121_2

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Just be confident and friendly to EVERYONE. Make yourself the center of attention, but in a good way. Confidence is the key here my friend. Welcome.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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