"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Snyper

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Hey guys. I've been an AFC for as long as I can remember. It's my nature, I'm just too nice to people and I want to please them (guys and girls alike). I'm slowly but surely growing out of that nature right now, thank god, but that's not why I'm making this thread.

So I'm going shopping with a group of friends this upcoming Friday. I'm hoping it'll also be an occasion to pick up chicks. The question is, does being with a group of friends have some kind of a downside or an upside? How do I approach a girl? With my friends with me or left a bit behind? And if a girl is with a group, do I ignore the group, talk only to her or acknowledge all of them first then focus on her?

Greatly appreciated
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pathgen

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Don't ever ignore the group. Make friends with all of them. They have to accept you and once you have earned that accpetance is when your target will be comfortable with you.

Also, dont say your an afc. From this point on you are a Don Juan. People tell themselves they are this and they are that and they beleive it. If you say you are a stupid you might actually come to believe that. The same principle applies here.

As Pook says " Think and you shall become"
 

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in relation to Pathgen's post, you should treat this as a group that you are to approach. You should talk to all of them, befriend all of them, and then focus on the girl.

however, you need to not chase her. just have a conversation with her, then go back to talking to the group, then come back talking to her, and repeat. instead of making the trip an okay time shopping, make it a great time for her and your friends.
 

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Just be confident and friendly to EVERYONE. Make yourself the center of attention, but in a good way. Confidence is the key here my friend. Welcome.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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